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I really care about him..even if he doesnt think so
Ive been going out with Jon for almost a year weve had are ups and downs around six months of going out one night he told me he didnt think i really loved him we had plans that night to go to a christmas party i was all ready to go but he just left me at home all night and hung out with his friends instead i was so upset i called my two bestfriends crying he just left me hanging they told me to break up with him or they wouldnt be my friend anyore so i dumped him the next morning my friends were always jealous that i didnt always hang out with them anymore but i made sure i hung out with them alot.My friends promised them would be there for me during the break up but they werent they became best friends and ditched me.jon is one of those guys most would call a player hes had alot of girlfriends done alot of things but this year everyone has told me hes so differant with me.He use to dump his girlfriends all the time but he hasnt dumped me yet.anyways onto my piont.One day we had gotten into a fight he told me i only think about myself that everything has to be about me.that i dont show him i love him i just say it.he said he didnt mean to get mad and that he loves me and doesnt know what he would do without me thats hes never felt this way about any girl before.Today was Patty Murphy Day(senior skip day)he skipped hes not a senior he said he had plans i said i didnt want to talk to him if he skipped ,my friend ashley brought me to a store today to pick up food before my game he happened to be outside i said hi walked away he got out of his car and said i told you youd talk to me i kissed him he said i love you tree times i didnt say anything back he drove off..It hurt to hear he doesnt think i care about him if i didnt i wouldnt be with him for a year how do i show him i care more what do i do?and as for the i love you thing i think i just shouldnt say it if he doesnt think i love him what about you?thanks so much
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i dont have the energy to put all my time and thought into explaining exactly what i think about this situation but just to answer your last question. i REALLY think you need to keep saying i love you even though he doesnt think you mean it. i've been through the EXACT same thing but if you quit saying it, its just a HUGE reinforcement that he was right, and you really dont love him; or so he'll think. and as for the whole "not showing but only saying i love you" thing, thats the problem. actions speak louder then words hunny, show more say less. it'll kick in eventually.
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if you love him and he love you...go for it....talk to him...work it out...take a chance...
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It sounds to me like you really do love him.I think from the way it sounds he really loves you to. I think you should call him and say "We need to talk." and meet somewhere. Talk to him about it tell him you have never felt the way you feel about him for another guy. That you really love him, and if you didnt you wouldnt have been with him for a year, and tell him how you feel. Ask him how you could show him that you really love him and care for him. I hope I helped you and good luck! =)
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