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HELP!My two best friends are ignoring me!!
Please Help!!
I am a girl and I am 13 and I have two really good friends but they are mad at me and they dont even have a reason to be. At school they are just ignoring me and doing really mean stuff and one of the girls is my BEST BEST friend!!
I am so sad and confused I have no idea what to do at all!!
please tell me if i should just stay away or ignore them or try talking again and what should I say!? i dont want to appoligize becuase i am always the one appoligizing and this time it would be for nothing even though they want me to! It sucks i just feel like moving schools I have other friends but those are my best friends
Do you know what I should do?
PLEASE answer I need ADVICE!!
--SOconfused
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I'm sorry that your girl friends are acting like that. I think that happens a lot at your guys' age. My friends used to act like that all the time; but they always got over it. I think you should try to talk to them separately. If you try to talk to them when they're together, they're likely to jump on your case, just because it would be two against one.
You said one of them is your absolute best friend, so you should try to talk to her first. Say, 'I'm sorry if I did something that upset you, but I honestly have no idea why you're angry with me.'
Try to do it when you're not in school, too. If you can call her after school or something, that would be good. There could easily be too many distractions and school and you want to make sure you have her full attention when you talk to her.
You're right, you shouldn't have to apologise for something you didn't do. But it's possible that you did something that hurt their feelings when you didn't even know it would. That's why you should start the conversation out with, 'I'm sorry if I did something that upset you/hurt your feelings..'
You'll be showing that you're willing to take them blame if you really did do something that upset her. If you start the conversation out with, 'I don't know what your problem is, but you need to grow up. I didn't do anything to you', no matter what you say afterward, she won't be listening. You have to approach people in a pleasant way when they're upset with you or they won't listen, even though it would be nice to tell them what's really on your mind sometimes.
Once you talk to her, she will hopefully be able to shed some light on why they're acting like they're acting. If it turns out that you really did do something that hurt their feelings, call your other friend up. Tell her that you talked to the other one and that you're sorry for (insert what you did). Knowing that you talked to the other friend will make her more likely to forgive you right away. I'm sure she doesn't want to be the only one angry with you.
If your best friend doesn't react well, meaning she blows up on you, hangs up, or won't tell you what's going on; you should leave them be for a while. Hang out with your other friends at school until the whole thing blows over. Once you've laid your cards out on the table, it's up to them to stand up and tell you what's going on and forgive and forget.
Good luck,
Darby(:
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obviously they are being really immature if they are ignoring you for no reason. honestly, they are probably backstabbing you--and that's not best friend material. that's such middle school drama...if you did nothing wrong, and they are ignoring you for no reason, it's their deal. they are just trying to create more drama to make themselves feel superior to others, and especially you since they know you well enough to know that you are vulnerable to that kind of situation.
i personally would hang out with other people and find new friends who treat you right. your supposed "best friends" are treating you like crap, and that's not how friendship works. you will make so many new friends in your life..don't let stupid attention craving people set you back.
you can try to talk to them about it and get a real reason as to why they're upset and ignoring you, but if they go on to treat you badly, it's not worth your time.
they know how they are making you feel...is that what friends do? do real friends set out to make you feel like your worth nothing? no.
trust me, middle school drama is just about a waste of your time and energy...no need to waste your life away being sad. find new friends who will treat you better. :)
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