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I have crush on this beautiful, smart, funny and great girl. I've (sort of) asked her on dates before - we went to the movies. It was kind of a bad time, because she brought about 5 friends, and it was if I wasn't even there. I just kind of hung around the entire time and didn't even talk to her.
There's a school dance tomorrow. I asked her if she was going to go and she said yes. So we're both going. I want to ask her to basically be my girlfriend...but I have no idea what to say, and I'm really afraid of rejection. What do I do?
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hey scary you have to just be yourself thats what girl love the most tell her how you feel be sensitive and make her feel good if it dont works than she's not normal
Jazzy**
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First of all, she has agreed to go with you so it seems as though you are pretty sorted on the 'getting her to like you' front. As far as your fear of rejection goes, I know how difficult it is, believe me. But the way I see it, if you run away from every opportunity like this because you are scaredof being rejected, you could miss out on some wonderful things. If someone does say no, you just have to build your self esteem up a little bit and try not to let it bother you. Everyone gets turned down at some point in life but you can't always run away from the possibility that it might happen, so take a deep breath and go for it!
Now, if you want to ask her to actually be your girlfriend, you need to wait until the timing is right. See if you can talk to her during a slow dance. Take her to one side or even tell her while you are dancing that you really like her and that you are glad she came with you. Then tell her she looks nice and you are having a good time and that you were wondering if there was any chance you could go out again, as boyfriend and girlfriend.
Don't worry, because I'm sure it will be fine and if you stress about it too much, you'll forget to have any fun! You can do this and if she says no, you have to try not to get too upset. One rejection just means you have more time to look for the girl you are meant to be with and I promise you there is one. That being said, the way I see it, you sound like a really nice guy and she would be a fool to say no. Good luck!
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Hi
It's only natural to be afraid of rejection. We all are to a certain degree. I mean lets face it, being rejected hurts.
Now, with that being said, if you don't tell her you're interested in her as more than a friend, how is she supposed to know?
You could go your entire life losing out on relationships because your fear of rejection stops you from stating how you feel.
Take a deep breath and just go for it!!! If she says no, then you can move on, instead of wasting more time wondering if you guys could have something together. If she says yes, then life will be good.
Brenda
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Aviously she likes u but she is scared to hang around u she is insecure thats y she brought her friends theres nothin wong with being scared of rejection but hey the onley way of figureing out stuff that needs to be answered is by asking. so be a dare devil and go after her!!!!!!!!
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