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my friend might be bi sexual
ok i think my friend might be bi sexual, but she won't tell, this is going to be long but here goes nothing:
My friend told me that when she was in 5th grade she was gay, but when she got her 1st boyfriend in 6th grade she told me that was wasn't into girls anymore, and ever since then she has been in guys. we are both freashman, and she droped out of our all girls choir when i ask her why she said it was because she was feeling way too horney around the other gils. I ask her if she was into both guys and girls and she said no. I told her it was ok if she was and that it wouldn't change our friendship. She said that she was 100% into guys and that was it, and that i should drop it. She also told me not to tell anyone that she used to be gay. If she is into both guys and girls i want her to know that i won't care. How do I make her see that? I just want to help her.
~*Keri~!
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just dot say anything to her because if she doesnt want to tell you then shes not going to and if she was going to tell you she would
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She sounds like a kid who is going through phases trying to find herself. What do you care? Frankly it is none of your business what her sexual orientation is, and if she wants to talk about it then she will. What makes you think she needs any help? Lots of teens go through this sort of thing.
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It does sound as though she may be bisexual or gay. I don't really know anyone who is gay but I doubt very much you can just 'stop' being that way any more than a straight person can stop being straight.
I suspect she is very concerned herself because it may be that her feelings are scaring her and at the same time, she's worried about the way other people may react. Perhaps this includes you, perhaps not.
Try talking to her again. Sit her down somewhere and just ask straight out, "Are you gay or bisexual?" She will most likely say that she is straight and if she does, make sure you tell her that if she was, it would be okay with you and you would still be her friend. Most importantly, reassure her that you would not tell anybody else. She's bound to be feeling pretty insecure about it all right now.
She may well brush off your assurances and comments because even having your support, she may not be ready to accept the situation herself yet. If this is the case, don't worry too much because at least you know that she is now aware you will be there for her.
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