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problem with two guys
hey my name is frances i am a 19/f. and i have a problem, well not just one but 3. ok well about 3 months ago, my boyfriend of two years broke up with me and i have been having a hard time dealing with it. but about 1 month ago i met a great guy (24) and i like him and but he is moving really fast saying that he already loves me and everything and i am not ready for the. well here comed the confusing part. this other guy i know well call him bill(30) likes me alot and i like him(we have talked about it) but he is afraid to take our friendship further becuase of what ppl will say. ok now last but not least my ex wants back in the picture wants to kill both guys bill and josh (my ex is 22)for trying to talk to me. he is back telling me he loves me and he wants to hang out all the time. it is hard becuase i still love him but i am not sure i want to be put in the situation to get hurt again. help me what should i do i dont want to get hurt or hurt anyone and all of these guys are great ppl.
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Whether you decide to be with this guy of two years again or not, you shouldn't date anyone else until you've had a lot of space to deal with it.
I would say it depends on the reason he broke up with you. But mostly it depends on what you think. If you believe in your mind that it could work out again, then maybe it could. Don't think with the part of you that is in love with him though. When you are really in love and something isn't right, the part of you that's smarter usually speaks up and you have to listen to it when it comes to something like this. If you know deep down in your gut that this won't work out, hold onto that and listen to it.
Now I'm not saying that you won't feel regretful if you decide to be with him again. After every break-up, you go through this phase where you feel regret for what you said or did. So don't freak out when you feel regretful.
My only concern about this guy is that he wants to kill these guys that are interested in you. If these thoughts are serious or he's really making threats or any of that, then you definetly need to stay out of the relationship. This guy made the choice of breaking up with you, so he definetly does not have the right to want to kill these guys. Two years is a really long time to be with someone, and I can't promise you that it won't be hard because it will be. Don't expect to not feel regret, and a lot of sad and angry feelings because that's part of a break-up. What you have to do is focus on yourself healing over this guy and putting these other guys on hold.
-TheTeenGirl
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so basically you're in a love triangle. there's only one thing you have to do. sort out your feelings. don't pay any certain attention to one in particular so that you can juss sort everything out. you want to go with the right guy & not make a mistake, so be fair to each. sit down & think. maybe make a list of pro's & con's to see which guy you like more. after all of that, the guy you decide, let the other guys know that you aren't interested, but want to be friends, & let the guy you do like know. that's the way it'll be fair to all of them.
-hope that helped!♥
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