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friend+cutting wrists
ok well i have a friend and she is really sweet. But i recently found out she had been cutting her wrists, so i told one of my teachers and she reported it to the office as an annonimous report. So she got called down to the office today to be talked to and well lets just say she was really upset. Shes not aloud back at school untill she goes to a shrink atleast 6times! So anyways well she keeps e-mailing me and im scarred shes going to find out it was me because someone told her that they saw a girl friend taalking to one of our teachers about her. So how am i suppost to approch her in a way that dosent hint to be proven it was me? Did I do the right thing? I really dont want to loose a friend i have already lost so many this year! I go threw school with only 3 friends! And i dont want to walk arond alone! Helllp
Alyssa 13
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You were right to take action. If you didn't you might have lost a friend forever! She has issues she needs to deal with. Most cutters have suicidal tendencies. Thank God you cared enough to let someone in authority know. Now she can get the help she needs and deserves. What she was doing could have led to a permanent solution to a temporary problem. She hasn't lost a friend, she couldn't have a better one! Don't worry about he finding out, yes she will be mad, but big deal, mad is better than dead any day of the week!
You deserve a metal!
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Trust me and believe me...you did the right thing. Next time she could have gone farther and have commited suicide. Would you rather have her mad now or dead? That may sound really insensitive but that's the way it is. She needs help and people like that often don't realize it. If you think she is going to find out it was you who told, tell her yourself. Even if she doesn't realize it now, soon she will be thanking you. If you don't think she is going to find out, don't worry about telling her. She doesn't NEED to know if you don't feel comfortable telling her. And always remember, there are some secrets you just don't keep.
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You did do the right thing and there is no doubt in my mind about that. However, your friend will not see it this way right now so I can understand why you don't want her to know. I've been through the *exact* same thing with a friend before and she was SO mad at me, she wouldn't speak to me for a long time.
However, in the long run, when she's doing better, she will thank you for what you did and should be grateful that she got help before things went even further.
The best thing you can do right now is just be a friend to her. No matter what you do or say, there will always be a possibility she will find out it was you and unfortunately, that is something you may have to face up to but for now, try to be there for her so that she knows your a friend and if it does come out at some point, hopefully she will have realised why you did it.
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Wow I almost feel compelled to ask you what school you go to. A few days ago my 12 year old sister's friend went and talked to a teacher and told them that my sister had been cutting her self. We never even knew that she was depressed. She now has to go see a therapist. I'm so thankful that my sister's friend told someone. Now we know and can take the appropiate steps to begin to help her. You did the right thing and I want to give you major props for being such a good friend. I understand why you may not want your friend to know that your the one that spilled the beans, just let her be the one to bring up this topic first and instead of doing alot of talking about it, you just sit back and be the listener. If you do want to say something about it you could say something along the lines of, I heard what happened and I'm sorry. I'm here if you need someone to talk to....
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You are a true friend for risking your friendship to help her! And I think in time, she will realize that. But a way you could approach her is by just being really supportive, be as positive as you possibly can. This is going to be unimaginabley difficult for the both of you, whether or not she figures out it's you, and if she does, whether or not she can accept that you were only trying to help.
Having few friends hurts, it flat out sucks, but at least you are a TRUE friend to the ones that you DO have. That will pay off throughout your life, don't lose that quality. Fight for it with everything you have, like you are fighting to help your friend.
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hey you did the right thing telling a teacher.. that is so smart and so brave to do. If your friend finds out- let her be mad. because doing the right thing and getting her out of depression is one of the many thinsg best friends do for eachother. thats really being a real friend. so if she finds out, then its her loss of losing a great friend
-pinkandrawwwr
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