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Trouble with bfs strict family.
Hi,
I am a Canadian female who is seeking advice on a difficult problem. My bf and I have a semi-long distance relationship and he is closer to me now because he is home for the summer. Next year he will be back at his college far away and his landlord won't allow visitors and he doesn't have much money to come see me, so I want to spend as much time in the summer with him as possible while keeping him seeing his family in mind. I wanted him to come and stay at my residence for two weeks and my mom even offered to pick him up and pay for his ride back home, but his parents said no. His parents are very strict and he got into a fight with them that same day. He is an adult and I have tried to get him to stick up for himself and told him that if he really wanted to see me he would accept the ride slam the door and do it, but he keeps giving me excuses. Now I am wondering if he really doesn't want to see me but he stresses that he does, but he can't stick up for himself. What should I do? How can I get him to stick up for himself or convince him to come see me? Whenever I try to bring it up he gets upset and wants to change the subject.
Help???
Thank you.
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I think your boyfriend's probably feeling trapped between you and his parents. Since he's in college, there's a good chance that his parents are probably paying for a good chunk of his education and he doesn't want to lose that, which is understandable. Maybe you could have your parents talk to his parents and explain the situation of him staying at your place over his vacation. Maybe you could compromise and suggest a shorter time span, say a weekend or something? Or would it be possible for you to travel to see him so that his parents would feel more comfortable about it? Parental issues or not, your boyfriend needs to make some time for you while he's at home over break because it's hard to do it at other times of the year.
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What i would personally do is just talk to him and maybe talk to his family. You just have to get up the courage to actually talk and make sense. Just say what you want to be able to. You might need to sacrafice things but if u like even love this guy i bet you would do it. ( of course it depends on the sacrifice) lol.
Hope it works out!
-Steph
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