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cheating? sorry its kinda long
me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship. we've been together for 6 months. i was playing around on myspace and i found his (i didn't know he had one) so i was looking at it. i was looking at this girl who had been commenting him and it seems like theyre going out because shes always like "love ya" so i looked at her profile and it says stuff about him like they are only friends except for her headline which says "<3 his initials" and i dont know what to believe. also about a week ago his away message said "sleeping and dreaming i love you baby and im so glad your with me now" and i didnt think it was about me so when i asked he flipped out at me so i just shook it off what should i do?
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I dunno if this is effective or even possible but it is a funny way to catch your boyfriend in his lies. You should talk to this girl through myspace (dont tell her your his gf)and ask her if her and your boyfriend r dating. If she says yes then confront ur boyfriend and dump him! This may be immature but it will definately teach him a lesson! Good luck!
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Myspace is quite a popular site these days. Bring it up. Say that you wanted to make an account and that he should make one too because it would be a fun thing to do together. If something's up he will lie to you. He won't want you to get myspace and will be angry about preventing you from getting it. He might make a SECOND page in the hopes that you won't find his main one. He could even be honest and say that he already has an account, but immediately change some of the things that he and that girl have on their pages. Keep track of that.
After awhile, if he does any of those things, you are going to need to tell him the truth. Say that you were using myspace before and found him. Tell him that you don't understand what is going between him and that girl and you are worried that it could affect your relationship. Reassure him that you trust him, you are just more curious than anything and it is human nature to be curious. Ask him to be honest with you.
If he doesn't lie, seriously try to prevent you from getting myspace, or change anything on his page or on the girl's, once you "get it", ask him about the girl. Again, it's natural to be curious. "You seem like you're pretty good friends with that girl do I know her?". He'll probably get pretty uncomfortable if you're talking about her and they're going out. Then, bring out the honesty just like before. Tell him you already had myspace....etc.
I think that you need to risk him getting angry. If he can't handle the fact that his actions could be found out or misinterpreted, that's his problem, not yours. If he breaks up with you over it, that is a seriously immature thing to do and honestly, he hid myspace from you so you have every right to question his reasons. He needs to get a grip and either realize that two-timing is wrong, or realize that trust can only go so far especially when he is hiding things from you, no matter how small of a thing it is.
If he tells you that everything is fine and that he and the girl are just friends and nothing comes out, message the girl. Say that you are his girlfriend and that you saw that she and him were good friends and you wanted to get to know her a little better. If he is hiding you from her, this will be the end of it. He'll go down in flames like he deserves. If nothing is going on, she'll act normal and it should be the end of it then too. There's no reason to go any further and I think it would be safe to trust him again at this point.
I'm sure there are some other things you can say or do. Just try to think of things that that would be normal in normal circumstances, but would trap him in a corner if something was going on. Good luck!
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You need to ask him, don't try to be blaming or hateful though. It it's a long distance relationship, it would be possible that he is, and you would definatly need to break up with him. Why didn't he tell you about his myspace anyway? was he trying to hide something? maybe those are some questions you need to consider.
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You can't love someone if you can't trust them. Ask him straight up if he's interested in anyone else. Tell him that if you're the only one he's dating then you trust him.
But, if after he tells you that he isn't cheating but you still don't trust him then it's up to you to decide whether you want him or not.
Maybe they're just good friends. Or maybe they are dating. But don't just to conclusions. When you asked him about the away message were you pissed off or what? If you said something along the lines of "Who the &%$# is that to?! Because I know it isn't for me!", then him "flipping out" is reasonable. If you said it in a cute way: Who is that to ;) *wink*, then his flipping out probably means that he's hiding something.
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im really sorry to say this but i think that he might be cheatung on you, i cant say it differently. What you can do is if he doesnt want to talk to you in personal then send him a note or talk to him on msn or something else. Say gently that if he will treat you like he is treating you now then there is no point of going on anymore, say this as gently as possible without trying to make him mad, if this doesnt work then just tell him...
good luck and remember that if he would love you then he wiuldnt do anything to hurt you
lots of luv katy
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