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secret trip.
My Dad was asked to take a job in a city 16 hours from where I live now. He wanted our family to see the place and houses before he took the job so over my spring break, we looked for houses with a realtor everyday and flew/stayed there courtosy of the new company. Anyway, when my friends ask me what I did over the break, I'm not allowed to say anything about the new job or about the house shopping... I have to say I visited people and went shopping even though it's only half true because my dad could lose his current job and there's always a chance he won't take the job. Anyway, It's getting really hard to keep it a secret from everyone. I might be moving there over the summer and when people ask to go places over summer, I don't know what to say because I don't even know where I'll be living then. I'm nervous about moving and I want to spend as much time as possible with my closest friends while I still can but I can't tell them why. Can anyone help me with this? It's getting to be a real pain!
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It is very important that you stay strong and don't tell even one person. Even when someone has promised to keep a secret, it is not very likely that they will.
In a situation like this, lying can be necissary. Try now to dwell on it too much. If you lye to your friends now, I am sure that if your father does take the job, that they will understand if you tell them why you lied.
You could tell your friends that your parents are considering sending you to camp over the summer, so you can't make plans and want to spend time with them now.
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Mable
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It must be hard to keep a secret like that.
However, you should still make it remained a secret. When your friends ask you to do things with you over the summer, just tell them that you aren't sure what your plans are for the summer with your family and you'll have to see when summer comes around. That wouldn't be lying, it's just saying the exact truth- you aren't sure yet.
About spending more time with them, I say go for it. You don't have to give them a reason. If they want one, just explain that you just want as much time with them as possible before summer comes along when theres no more school to hang out at. Listen, even if you are lying to your friends, it isn't in your control. It isn't your fault that you are unable to tell them the truth. This is a family secret.
About being nervous, I'd say to talk to a family member about this since you will be living with them. It couldn't hurt to let someone know how you're feeling about this. This is really a big thing happening in your life, it's ok to be scared and nervous. If you have any siblings, ask them how they feel in the situation, they can probably relate to your feelings. Sometimes it's best to talk to your family because they will always be your number one support team.
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