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I feel like I have to change everything about myself just so
Recently, the guy that I really liked told me that he felt the same way too. Right now we are getting to know each other by talking to each other. He keeps telling my friend all of this negative stuff and saying what doesn't like about me. He said that he doesn't like the fact that I'm too serious, I'm bad at giving advice, I have a low self esteem, no confidence, and I don't enjoy drinking or partying. That makes me feel like I have to change everything myself so he'll like me. so I'm really confused and I don't know what to do.
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O.K. Lets look at the facts here. I understand you like him. But why would you want to go out with a guy that would want you to change yourself for him when there are guys out there who would love you just the way you are. Which person is more important to you. You? or him? If you love the way you look and feel, you would chose yourself. No offense, but what kind of guy would diss you like that and turn and say he loves you. But thats just my opinion. Hope this helped!! <3Ace
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darling, i know this is a hard situation to deal with, and it feels like you should change everything about yourself just so he'll like you because you like him, right?! If that's how it feels then maybe you should rethink that because you don't want to be someone your not. When you find that special someone, he will love you for everything you are and everything your not...he won't hold it against you that he doesn't like that you are serious. It's a stressful situation, we know. but my best advice to you is to move on. Keep him as a friend, yes, but nothing more than that. I'm sorry its bad news...but goodluck.
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Hi
When you find the right person, that person will love everything about you (of course there will always be little pet peeves), he would not expect you to change, to do something you wouldn't normally do.
It's obvious that if he is trying to change you, he doesn't like everything about you. Please don't ever change yourself for the sake of trying to please another person. You will end up miserable, and look at yourself in the mirror saying "who am I".
If he can't accept you the way you are then maybe it's time to move on to someone who will look at all your wonderful qualities, without trying to change who you are.
If you're happy with yourself, then that is really all that matters. Take care.
Brenda
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If he really liked you he would like you for who you are not who you aren't. Don't ever change yourself for any man. Be yourself and be proud of who you are. If they really like you they will accept you for who you are not for who they want you to be.
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never ever change the way you are for some one esle. wether it be a guy or a freind or anyone. Be yourself. there will always be some one who loves you for you.
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do not change yourself fo ranybody. it's something you hear over, and over again, but honestly, do not. if he doesn't like you for who you are, he is NOT, i repeat NOT, worth your time. find somebody who the real you can get along with. he might just be insecure, and be nitpicking, incase you find negative things about him.
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Okay sweety if this guy doesnt like you for who you are, And he cant accept the little things that do bother him about you, Than he is not worth it at all. Seriously, I know you you really like him but wouldnt you rather really like someone that doesnt sit there and point out everything that bothers them about you? So my advice is drop him and find someone else. Hope everything works ut i wish you the best
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i dont think you shud change fer this guy at all. if he thinks theres so many negative things that he dont like about you and hes going to break up because of it, wat did he like about you in the first place? plus im sure he has alot of negatives too but if your willing to live wif it then so shud he
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