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Too Many Boyz... dont let me down plz
Okay, my name is Saylor I am soon to be thirteen in July and I'm starting to have boy trouble. Okay I know a bunch of boys that like me and I can have anyone of them that I want I know this because they have all asked me out... except for one that I am really crushing on. Okay here is how it goes... Okay tonight was the big baseball game against Owsley County and Lee County. (two counties that are enemies) Me... being from Owsley. Okay the boy I like plays baseball for Owsley. I was watching the game and my bff Whitley came over there and told me to come in the dugout. Well this boy (Nate) was sittin out cause he sprang his hand. I sat with him the whole time I think he was flirting with me but Im really not sure. He sat with me on the bus on the way home and everything. He was tickling me and laying down against me trying to go to sleep and I really like him. He is way sweet. The question is what can I do to get him to like me more, and how can I find out if he likes me. Thanks... I heard your alot of help... dont let me down.
Kissz
Saylor
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Complicated.
Oh, there's not much doubt whether or not he likes you. Almost ANY straight teen boy "likes" a pretty girl. They don't really have a choice; it's pretty much hard-wired into them. Tickling, lying against you, being sweet...yeah. Of course he likes you.
But "like" can (and usually does) mean very different things for boys and girls, particularly at your age. And that's the part that's complicated.
Yes, he likes you. He probably would like to date you; if you're around him enough, he'll probably work up the nerve to ask you sooner or later. Or you could ask him.
But what YOU mean by "like" is probably closer to love. And what HE means by like is probably closer to lust. Girls tend to fixate on one boy, or one boy at a time. Boys often are interested in playing the field and being with as many girls as possible. It's just the nature of the human male animal.
What I'm trying to say is, he likes you, and you don't really need to do anything to get him to like you more. That's not how boys think. He already likes you a lot, and it would be a big mistake for you to think that you somehow had to do something to appeal to him more. Because love should always be between equals. If you spend your time worrying about how to make him like you, you're putting yourself below him in your own mind. Don't do that.
Does he love you? It's too early to say. You're both still awfully young. Remember, you have a lot more growing left to do.
But I imagine that the potential for love is there, as long as you don't - and I'm sorry to have to say this - make the mistake of getting too sexual with him. Girls seem to think that getting physically intimate with a boy will make him like them more, but in fact it usually has the opposite effect. Although many boys will try to pressure a girl into having sex using exactly that argument.
If you read the site much, you'll find a LOT of girls who thought that they'd be with their boyfriend forever, only to lose them after having sex. It's sad.
So please be careful, and try not to let yourself be hurt. If your parents say it's okay, spend more time with him; but remember to keep your head on straight. When you're young and in the throes of first love, it's easy to make mistakes.
Although an even bigger mistake is to shut yourself away from love completely. I made that mistake, and I can tell you from sad experience: it's the worst of all.
Like I said, it's complicated. Life, I mean. I'm sorry I can't give you a simple answer, but I don't have one. And I don't think that there IS one.
But I wish you the best of luck!
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It really sounds like he likes you already.
Anytime a guy that age is talking to you and sitting with you on the bus...its a pretty sure thing.
The best thing to do now is get to know him better. Talk to him every chance you get. Smile at him a lot and just let him know you are interested and like the attention he is giving you.
Hopefully, before you know it, you two will be an item! :)
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