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my boyfriend wants to give me a gold diamond ring and i told him no but he said he is going to buy it any way should i let him i will feel bad though cause he is wasting his money on me but he said he is not but still he talks about getting me stuff but i say no then i say i am going to get him things and he says no can anyone help me on how me and him can buy eachother things without the guilt? plez help fast he is gonna get the ring on wednessday
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It all really depends on three things;
a) at what status is your relationship?
b) how old are you?
c) what is his current income?
If you're a young teenager who has been dating for a couple of months, then I would tell him not to, since you're far too young. If you are older, and your relationship has developed fully and he can afford to give gifts such as this, then he is giving you a symbol of his commitment, and so if you feel the same way, you should feel no guilt over accepting it.
If you don't feel ready to accept a gift like this from him at this point in time, then you should let him know that you take your relationships very seriously, and you think that you're just not at a stage yet where large gifts are appropriate.
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like traci said, find out why he wants to get the ring for you. is he feeling like he's going to lose you and needs to find a way to keep you? i know that my boyfriend has been wanting to buy me a silver ring (i like silver better :P), though he hasn't gotten it yet (well, we haven't gotten it yet, he needs to take me with him because neither of us know what my ring size is... ^_^;), but i've been trying to get him to hold off on it for a while.
if you can't convince him to not buy the ring, try and strike a compromise. say that he can get you some earrings, or another ring (like silver?? ^_^) with a semi-precious stone instead of a precious one (meaning like amethyst, moonstone, opal) or a zirconia stone instead (looks like a diamond, but it's not one ^_^).
hope this helped. good luck!
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Well you gotta figure out why you feel guilty if he gets you stuff. If its because of a money issue, you shouldn't feel guilty if he doesn't find it a problem. And he probably feels guilty by taking your gifts because you say no to his. Does the ring have meaning? Like a promise ring or more? I say don't feel guilty and make it an issue if he doesn't. And if he doesn't want you to buy him gifts, make him gifts. Show him your heart.
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He wants to give the ring to you because he cares about you and he isn't wasting his money, he's spending it because he wants to not because he has to. Don't feel guilty about it. He's buying you things because he likes you and so just say thanks. He feels the same way you do, so just think that you guys are getting each other gifts because you care for one another.
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