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Im a 14 year old girl, and i am in 8th grade. i Was going out with this one gay....lets call him Jay, i was going out with Jay for 4 months and i think he was my first true love, i still love him but i dumped him because it just had to be done, he didnt treat me right but that didnt stop me from loving him and i still do, the next day his best friend asked me out because he had been crushing on me for 3 months and i said yes because he was super nice, sweet, i knew he would treat me right, and he has. Lets call this guy Tom, well me and tom have been going out for a little more than a month now and he is amazing, and my feelings for my ex are starting to come back, i do not want to be with him, no mader how much i love him i can never be with him again, i guess my question to you is, how do i make these felings go away? or do i let them come back because what is ment to be is what it ment to be... anything helps, thank you!
-Ugh lets call me Wendy
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it takes a long time to get over your ex but yu said he didnt treat you right and thats one reason straight away not to go out wif a guy. and if youre happy with your new bf then maybe hes the better guy to be with. if you can never be with him again then maybe you shoudl just focus on your current relationship. it aound like youve got a good thing going.
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kim
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It takes quite a while for feelings like your to go away but trust me one day they will and on that day you'll have a whole new outlook on life and know that you made the right decision by not going back with ''jay'' and sticking with guys that will treat you the way they should. All you can do is wait untill your ready to move on and not rush to get any old feelings out of the way.
hope this helps, good luck
&hearts,
shandi
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Wow, this is a really tough one. I once had feelings for someone, and thought they were coming back years after the fact. Truth be told, you can honetly have feelings for a good number of people though. If this guy didn't treat you right, forget about it. It's alright if you care for him and want him to have good things in life. It's alright if there are some qualities in him you like. This is normal, something attracted him to you in the first place. Ultimately, it's highly unlikely you are oging to end up spending the reat of your life with him, and either way, it doesn't sound like a good investment if he 'treated you badly'. Besides, has he tried to get back with you, you didn't mention if he had or not, but I am guessing he hasn't made an effort for it.
So far, you sound like a really smart lady. You've made some very wise decisions so far. I would just write those feelings off as feelings- don't let them take over your life and your common sense. There are enough fish in the sea, it's smart to get out of a bad relationship as soon as possible. You did the right thing. In case you ever feel guilty about having feelings for one guy while dating another, please don't in this case. Don't feel guilty about having "feelings" of care and concern for someone, it's not too awful. It's possible to 'love' someone without being 'in-love' with them, or building a relationship with them.
I hope I'm being clear enough on the difference.
Hope all this helps you a bit. :)
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If i was you, i'd just move on, and say whatever happens happens. That way you can live your life, and if the feelings DO come back, then you can deal with it at that point. Good luck!
♥ Evy
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