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Friendship Got Fried
Ok... sorry its so long but i really need help.
so I had this really close friend for about 2 years now. But recently I got really mad at her and told her I didn't want to be her friend anymore.
She kept saying I was lying about certain people who were my friends and lying about stuff I did and turing my best friend against me. Then I lied once to her... So i wouldn't hurt her feelings... and she automatically thought that everything I had made her realize weren't lies... really were.
I have never lied to her except that one time... and now my other friend treats me weird cause this mutal friend keeps tellin her stuff about me.
She pisses me off SOOOO bad... I would tell her something that was really important to me and shes laugh and quickly go onto herself for a long period of time or just roll her eyes. And she was always really moody and jelous.
And now I've been hearing shes talking about me behind my back all the time and in the classes I have with her she's always staring at me. My friend sent me a convo she had with my ex-friend where that girl was talking about me.
So I IMed this girl on AIM... and she told me she doesn't talk about me and shes got better things to do than that. And I had proof she was talking about me.
So now I'm worried I'm going to lose my friends because of her... and she's a lying bitch herself... NOT me
SOMEONE HELP!!!
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Wow, i am going through the exact same thing! Except, i didnt lie to her or anything i absolutely did nothing to her and she just one day decided to turn everyone against me by saying im a bad friend where then she admitted i wasnt.. i know this seems like im talking about me but i have a point. Ok well you dont deserve someone like that and for the other people who are being manipulated by her and are actually convinced that you are doing all the things she said, they arent good friends. Make new friends and it will all be good, thats what i did. If anyone of your "friends" come up to you, tell them the real story and its their choice to believe you, if they dont, eff them! You know who your real friends are and that girl that is turing everyone against you is definatly not one of them! dont worry, everything will be fine. ;)
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This girl is obviously very manipulative and cunning, to convince your friends to listen to her rather than you.
Although situations like this are truly horrible, you need to think of it as an opportunity to see who your real friends are. After all, if they were truly your friends, surely they wouldn't make up their minds about you based on some speculation from someone else?
Arguments like this happen a LOT when you're getting older and although it will begin to happen less over time, you need to learn to keep it together when it happens.
Remember that you have done NOTHING wrong and there's no need for you to keep sticking your neck out to defend yourself. You may want to and you may be so mad at her you could bite her ear off! But the best thing you can do is speak to the friends she's turning against you and say something similar to "I haven't lied to her constantly. I did lie once but that was to spare her feelings. You should know me well enough to know that I wouldn't lie to someone like that and if you don't believe me then that's fine because at least I know the truth. It's up to you to think what you like." Leave it at that. Say enough to clear your name, without getting upset and after that they need to be left to their own devices.
The whole thing will eventually clear up but throughout everyone's lives, someone will always be saying something nasty behind their backs. You need to accept this because there will never be anything you can do to stop it. Let them think what they want and anyone who is truly your friend will standy by you throughout it because they will trust you not to behave the way others say you have.
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dear Friendship Got Fired,
that same thing happens to all teens. if she wants to talk about you behind her back then let her. but one thing you have to do is talk to your other firneds and tell them the truth. If they don't believe you, then they aren't very good friends. So IF they don't believe find some new friends. I do it all the time without any regrets!
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