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how to get him to open up
I know this guy. I think i have a crush on him.
but i dont know if he likes me or even wants to be my friend at all.
He's a consultant and talks extremely well when i ask him for advise on work.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
He could have just thank me for the sweets but he didnt.
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well.
One day, i called him up and he sounded quite uptight and said that he was on the other line...
So why does he act so weird when i call him but he responds quite well via email
How do i get him to open up to me as a normal friend?
What can i say/should not say to him when i call him? Can i call him to say goodnight to him? I dont want to appear too invasive ...
Would appreciate your advice.
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Some people have a hard time getting comftrable with people and something in the past might of caused him to be that way. I was kind of like him couple of years ago. I had trouble trusting people and making friends because everytime I started to like a group of people, something bad would happen and I would never see them again. Anyways, he has a hard time getting used to the idea that you just want to be friends with him and he has a hard time getting comftrable around you and plus he's shy. Right now, you should just keep talking to him. As you both keep getting to know each other, try changing the subjects from work to other things. It will take him some time to get to know you and for him to see how he feels about you. He also doesn't seem to be comftrable talking in person or on the phone because he is really shy and I understand that. For now, take baby steps into developing a relationship with one another. Don't worry about what things to say and what not to. The best thing for you to do is be yourself no matter what. If you try being different, he will realize that and he won't know who you really are. Be yourself and just give your friendship some time.
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