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how to get this guy to open up
I know this guy from my previous office but not really that close to him. I think i have a crush on him but i dont really know if he likes me at all.
He's a consultant and talks extremely well when i ask him for advise on work.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
He could have just thank me for the sweets but he didnt.
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well.
How do i get him to open up to me as a normal friend?
What can i say/should not say to him when i call him? Can i call him to say goodnight to him?
Would appreciate your advice.
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well, I don't think that he is a very personal person, so if you do want to talk to him, you should talk to him about work for now. He should open up as you two get closer, but if you want to be a good friend with him you need to talk to him, instead of giving him chocolates. He sounds like a very shy guy. Just be carefull how personal you get or he will freak out and go back into his little turtle shell. Keep it stricktly buisness until he makes the move to personal. Just let him change into personal mode, unless you really think that he is ready. If you see him at night before you go home, or he goes home you can say good night, but don't track him down or call him up just to say good night. He will think that it is wierd. Other than that, you should be all set with the whole friend thing. Just look for him at lunch or after work or something and ask him to hang...then just talk about work. I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open.
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I think he likes you. good luck! tell me how it goes...hope you get the guy! ha ha ha!
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