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How to get this guy to open up
I know this guy from my previous office but not really that close to him. I think i have a crush on him.
He's a consultant and talks extremely well when i ask him for advise on work.
However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.
So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!
He could have just thank me for the sweets but he didnt.
Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well.
How do i get him to open up to me as a normal friend?
What can i say/should not say to him when i call him? Can i call him to say goodnight to him?
Would appreciate your advice.
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Why not ask him out for coffee or drinks. Something casual...maybe even lunch. You could start out talking about something work related, then slowly start asking about him.
What kind of movies/ books does he like...something not work related but not real personal either.
I assume you have checked and found him not to be attached? It may be he has had a bad experience or he is just shy. He may be gay.
I don't think he is deliberately being unfriendly.
You may have to be the one though who starts the ball rolling. I would hold off on the goodnight calls until you know him better. The sweets one day and then you not mentioning it either...You may have him confused too! Just try talking to the guy. See where it goes.
Good luck! :)
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