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Me and my best guy friend
my best guy friend and i have been friends for about three years. we r in grade six.before i thought we were just really good friendss but now i think the he likes me! lots of his friends say that too but i dont no if i should believe them! What should i do?
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I don't mean to sound flip or anything, but you can ask him. He has been your friend for 3 yrs. Don't let the fear control your life. Take a look around you. You can see all kinds of adults who never achieved their dreams because they let fear control their actions. If you can start practicing "working through your fears" now your life will be limitless in what you can accomplish. Starting this when you are young will give you a chance at an amazing life to come. One way I work through my fears is whenever I have a list of things to do the one thing I fear most or you could say want to do least is the thing I do first. You see, we packge fear up into all kinds of packages, such as, I don't like that, they are strange, I won't do it, that is ugly, she's such an idiot, I don't like how she dresses, etc. You get the idea. If you start facing your fears and working through them you will be surprised at how easy it is and how little it really hurts. It is also empowering. Don't get me wrong, fear is there for a reason and you should take a look at where they are coming from, for example, you see a bear in the woods, I wouldn't go up and pet it. Do not ever put yourself into a life threatening situation to overcome fear. But your simple fear of not speaking to someone because you are afraid of what the other person might do or say...is a definate one to overcome. How I might approach this situation is I'd say something like, people are talking about us. They're saying that you like me more than just a friend. You say that in a light hearted fun voice. You could add; I know that I can't imagine my life without you in it, or, the best relationships are those that start off as best friends you know. I'm sure you two hang out a lot, so, timing is also everything. There will be a time when it will feel right to bring this up. Go with your instincts on this. You will know in your heart when it's right and what words would work best. If you miss that window of opportunity (because of fear) you will have to wait for the next one. When fear has overpowered you ask yourself this question: What is the worst that could happen. In this situation it could simply be that he says he cares about you as a friend, but that is as far as it goes. If that is where it stands than at least you will know and can move on to better pastures ahead. You will feel much better once you know one way or the other. But, wonder if it is true and he does have stronger feelings for you....definately worth the risk. If he just wants a friendship for now, it could be because he is living in the fear and is afraid to tell you, so don't let it put you off. Just maintain the friendship with him and let him approach you when he is ready. But most importantly no matter what his answer, always be his friend. Don't be angry with him if he doesn't respond the way you hope he will. This will show him what a good mature friend you are and he may even see you in a different light. Remember, he has to have some kind of positive feeling for you or he wouldn't have been your friend for these past 3 years. Good luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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