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Dealing with Subtle Conflicts
Well, my problem is that my friends and a few other classmates are hurting my feelings is all... You see, (from what I have heard. Stupid people...grr.) I'm the "top" (riiiight.) in my class. My IOWA test result from last year was only an 84 percentile and it jumped to a 96 this year. I also have good grades and I get good test results. But before this guy, Robert, was the best, so they're not very used to me. So, they're jealous. I could tell because they say scathing remarks to me, scowling, etc.
My friends are doing this too. Ashley, when she sees I have a higher score than her, does this and talks back if I write something she thinks she doesn't like. (ex."You have a big ego!" She got that when my teacher was joking when Ashley wrote my name BIG on our project.Then a few weeks later, "You have a small head!" The size of my head mind you. But I say nothng yet again!But now I think, 'You're a wakling oxymoron. That
comment just contridicts the other cuz you said I have
a big head and ego, no you say I have a SMALL head...?) I'm not used to this because they never did this to me before...
My bestfriend Elise also is dong stuff like this sometimes worse. My mom thinks she won't be a very good friend in the future. Why? Because in 3rd grade I was in this program called bungalow for kids who have trouble reading. So she came up to me and said "We can't be friends, because you're in bungalow." So we broke up. I didn't have any friends except for her that time, so I was a loner. Elise, fortunately, had lots of friends like Melvi, Nathaniel, Ariel, Linda, Franz, Ryan, etc. My mom also was gone for some time to train for her work. So that continued to 4th grade and into the first weeks of 5th grade. All I really did was kick a ball alone to improve so I can play kickball. Then later we became friends again and have Melvi as a friend in 5th grade because Elise seemed sad and I came up to her and tried to cheer her up. But then, now she is reacting like this, so my mom
doesn't know if she'll be a good friend and that she seems to be spoiled.
Other classmates are doing similar- all the way back from the beginning of the year. So I decided to give them time. But they only seem to become more vicious.
I have this bad habit of keeping things bottled in. So when I explode is when I have this tight feeling in my chest- like my heart is being squeezed, and then I cry. This is unusual because I'm usually calm. So I try to write out my feelings and talking to my mom. This helps, but it won't stop them from continuing this.
I've already dropped big and VERY noticiable hints that I don't like the way they're behaving. But it seems that they forget and continue what they do before. Sometimes I think people think that some people are different and don't have feelings.. But we
do! We feel the same that they do, eat what they eat,drink how they drink, we LIVE. But I don't think they get this. It's like I'm an alien!
I had to deal with this from the beginning and I still am.
If my relationship between my friends won't last, then I don't mind being alone. Or I'll try to get new ones. And I'll be more determined to push myself to the limit and do my best acdemically and socially.
What should I do, anyway?
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Dear future Ivy League student (lol)
I am sure they are just jealous of how well you are doing in school. They probably just feel a little bit insecure. Don't let them bother you, the fact that you are doing well in school is a GREAT thing. Whoever says doing bad in school is probably on the streets. If you don't do anything to make them feel stupid, like if you brag constantly about your grades(keep in mind a little pride is ok, just don't go overboard), or acting like you know it all, then you should be fine. Keep up the good work, I'm proud of you. Megz2009
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I can hear the calls... spaaaaaatula... spaaaatula...
People like this are awful, they really try to bring you down to their level. Don't fall for it! Hard as it may seem, being alone or finding different friends will be a ton better than ending up where they're going to.
I was made fun of for being smart when I was in elementary school, by one girl in particular. I was devastated. Well, grade 11 rolled around, she had dropped out and I saw her working at Applebee's, pregnant. So, now that I'm in university for engineering, and she's living in minimum wage hell, I'm not regretting my decisions at all!
Bottom line is, don't let it get you too badly. There are great people out there who will gladly accept you for who you are, exceptional abilities and all.
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The exact same thing is happening to me right now. Last year, in 7th grade, I moved so I switched schools. Well this year, I moved back so now I'm going back to the same school. Well it turns out that last year this girl Stacy came to the school. and when I came back to school this year, all the boys ( some of the girls too ) said that I'm way better than stacy ( not necessarily through academics, but through looks. ) Well Stacy got REALLY jealous. She has convinced almost all of the girls in class to back her up. ( even my best friend Kelsey! ) Okay. enough about me. I just try my best to ignore them and all there smart remarks. Just picture everyone after you graduate and they're stuck in 10th grade because they were too concerned about making your life miserable to concern themselves about their own grades. Can you see it yet? You'll have an absolutley wonderful, great paying job, and they'll be workin' at Mc.Donalds mopping the floor. Good Luck!!!
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ok i have similar, im top 5 or higher in my class (idk) but my friends tease me about my grades, but not like stop being my friends. its hard to believe that someone would dislike you for the grades your getting. keep doing great acacademically. i do the same..bottle it up and then i burst spiratically and everyone wants to know whats up with me. they think im being mean to everyone, when im really just hurt inside. so try to tell them how you feel, and grades shouldnt be apart of it. and if they still mean, try to find some new friends that accept you. hope it works out and keep up the good work.
ps i got a 96% of my iowas too! haha...
pss-next time just make it a tad wee bit shorter please.
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