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Never had a boyfriend
I'm 24 years old, going on 25 and I've never had a boyfriend, I've been on dates, if you want to call taking me to McDonald's as a date...anyway, everytime I see my friends or even relatives smooching or cuddling with their significant other it puts me down, it's like a slap in the face. I've never even experienced my first kiss yet. Everyone knows how I feel and everytime they say again and again "Don't worry, you're turn will come", I am so fed up with hearing that! Any advice you can give me?
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Stop waiting for it. Waiting works for some people, but others have to go out and get it. Imagine yourself waiting in line for something, and everybody who comes along steps in front of you. You've been waiting, but you can't go forward because every time the line moves, someone cuts you, so obviously that approach doesn't work. You need to be assertive, have confidence in yourself. Next time you're on a date, or with a guy who's "just a friend", ask HIM if he wants to be your boyfriend. I know you might think, "What if that scares him off?" but you have to try because honestly, what do you have to lose?
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just wait , um sure the perfect someone for oyu will come a long finally. dont try to push it all together when the time is right and you meet him, you should know.
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Honestly, I'd suggest making a move yourself, there's nothing wrong with asking a guy out an even if he says no, try again with someone else. you aren;t gonna get many guys by just waiting, it doesn;t work that way. hope i helped.
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I think you'll have to stop waiting for your turn to come. Start being proactive about it. Ask your friends if they have any single friends they can set you up with (trust me they probably do, and once they find out you're intersted, they'll find even more for you).
Of course there's always the club scene, but if you aren't into that there's always the internet. Just google it, I'm sure you've seen ads for sites like match.com, and others. I believe there are some free ones, but you'd have to google it to be sure.
Try something new, where you'll meet new people. Get a couple friends together and go on a wine tasting tour, start a bowling league, take an art class or something else you're interested in. The easiest way to look approachable? Smile and look like you're having fun, or approach other people. It doesn't even have to be someone you're attracted too, you could start approaching people who just seem like they'd be cool friends (you might even meet some single friends who will be more than happy to go significant other scouting with you :p). You'll be tonnes more comfortable talking to new people once you get used to it. That works for everyday too. Start small if you want, like make small talk with people waiting in the elevator for you or even your cashier.
As for dealing with those cutesy annoying couples? Think of how much fun it is to be single. You don't have to worry about anyone else thinks of you, you could wear sweatpants everyday, you could go get a face tattoo and not have to worry about he/she will say, you can go out whenever you want, and talk to whoever you want. The easiest way to respond to the "you're turn will come" is to make a joke out of it. Tell them you're not waiting on a significant other, you're perfectly happy with your pet or your computer- you never have to argue wtih them, and they're always there for you.
Good luck, and just stay positive!
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Believe me, I know how you feel; I didn't start dating until I was 33! And yes, until that point every PDA I saw was like a knife in my heart. Our society is totally focussed on love, love, love, and those of us who are on the outside looking in suffer endlessly.
Will your time come? Probably...but it would be a good idea to improve the odds and speed things up.
Because to be very honest, I myself really regret that I let my 20s pass without love. Don't make my mistake!
Online dating services are a good place to meet people. That way you can get to really know someone before actually meeting them. Generally I recommend trying two different services simultaneously; one that's focused on your favorite hobby or area of interest (there are services for almost any category you can imagine, from Star Trek fans to spelunkers), and a more general one in order to cast a wider net.
I found my wife through Match.com, so I can recommend them. Just don't spend too much money. And make sure to go in with your eyes open; unfortunately some people do lie online, just like in the real world.
Never put yourself in a position where you don't have an out. The first few real-world dates should always be in a very public place, and stay there. Resist the urge to have sex early in the relationship; there's nothing wrong with premarital sex (as least, I don't think so), but if you get physical too early it tends to reduce the chance for a successful relationship.
I wish you the best of luck!
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