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i've been going out with my boyfriend for like 13 months, and we've had sex about 4 times, but each time i get nervous beacuse i'm so nervous it's going to hurt. i really love my boyfriend, and he always says he doesn't mind but i want to do it but i'm nervous, what should i do?
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The thing is, if you're nervous about it hurting, it will hurt. When you get nervous, your muscles tense up and when your muscles are tense, it makes the whole thing that much more difficult (tight muscles = smaller vaginal cavity, situation).
If you can't shake the nervousness, maybe wait a bit longer and tell him not to initiate anything. When you feel really in control, you might be more relaxed and if you're relaxed, your muscles will be relaxed which means it shouldn't hurt as much. It might also put your mind at ease over the situation of pain if you use condoms that come lubed, or use lube on your condom (because I assume you'll be using one, or many. Otherwise it's just silly considering all the risks and stuff.)
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