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i dont have an orgasm at all during sex or with foreplay is there something wronge with me?
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There is nothing wrong with you at all, alot of women experience not being able to orgasm. Explore yourself sexually what feels better and what doesn't and also try different positions and foreplay techniques and find out which way you enjoy most. Or it could be down to you not being aroused much before intercourse, try foreplay first and then sexual intercourse that may help you. I do agree with as we dont know your age it could be down to you being to young ect but i would try different sexual techniques to help. There is also lots of advice on the internet that help women who cannot orgasm.
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It tough without knowing your age. If you are a very young pre- teen it could be you are still growing and not capable of doing so yet, or it could also be if you are in puberty that your hormones may be too low.
All the reasons and info given by Advice man is also correct and are possibilities.
Since you mention foreplay, you obviously have a boyfriend/sex partner. What I do not know is if this is your first or not. If sex is all new to you, psychologically if a person is a bit afraid or uptight because of their lack of experience yet, that can be enough to affect your ability to have an orgasm. If you have had a couple different sex partners by now (and assuming they know what to do to get a lady to orgasm) and you still have no success, it could be that none of them so far have been the right partner sexually as far as a pheremone connection. I have had enough experience to tell the difference, in fact as I got older, I could already tell by a kiss and how it felt to be close, hugging, without having to have sex it we had that special ingrediant or not. Same techniques and knowledge from a guy who is a great lover can just fall flat if that special spark isnt there. Some people think they feel it, but it wears off quickly because it was just a temporary thing felt called new relationship energy.
I have watched many documentairies and read much material on the subject of women unable to orgasm. In all I have come across, the professionals say that "all" women should be able to orgasm. Our brain is our largest sex organ and that has some effect on whether we are able to or not. I recently came across a piece of info where I forget the exact number but the fact was that the tiny little button called a clitoris has thousands upon thousands of nerve endings concentrated all in that one little spot whereas the head of the penis, the shaft and balls combined don't come anywhere near the amount. Its a matter of discovering what exact type of stimulation, how much pressure and speed will do it for you. The same goes for G spot orgasm.
Almost all women never have the clit or g spot orgasm during sex because the two areas of both partners do not come into the proper contact let alone pressure and speed to bring on an orgasm. So don't worry about that. Its just a matter of both of you discovering exactly what will work for you. The University of Oregon put out a great informative video series on orgasms from the medical perspective, taught to med students and it has great models of the reproductive system of the female and explains exactly what happens physiologically to a person in the process of an orgasm. I think it may be a little helpful. If working on it with what you learn from videos or books doesn't help, you may then want to speak to a sex therapist. Here's #4 of 9 parts, you can go back and watch all the others but 4 & 5 were the most important ones to me.
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good luck dear.
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No there are many women who do not experience orgasm though they still enjoy sex.
Do you orgasm when you masturbate? If the answer is yes then the reason you do not orgasm during intercourse or foreplay is because your partner is not stimulating you properly. Most men have been taught, or more correctly self-taught, that during foreplay to stimulate their partner vaginally.
For about 75% to 80% of women this is the best way to stimulate them. For the remaining 20% to 25% of women vaginal stimulation does nothing for them. These women get all of their stimulation clitorally. Meaning their partner must spend more or a great deal of time stimulating his partners clitoris on "G" spot which is inside the vagina generally behind the clitoris.
If you orgasm during masturbation it is generally because you, as most women, spend more time stimulating your clitoris. There are women who just don't orgasm, why I really can't say as there are many reasons for this to be.
You have not given your age, so if you are quite young this could be a reason. Another reason, although quite rare today, could be upbringing, where you have been taught that sex is a wifely duty and not something to get pleasure from. This reason is much more 19th century and earlier. It could be that you are young and having illicit sex with a boyfriend and fear, pregnancy and being caught. As I said I can't give you any specific reasons as you did not give any specific details about yourself
My advice is: If you enjoy sex without the orgasm enjoy the sex. IF you are truly concerned about having an orgasm then I suggest you consult you GYN. If you're over 14 you can do so without parental knowledge or permission under a federal law called HIPPA. Your visit and what you discuss with the doctor is confidential and cannot be told to your parents.
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No your not weird..Its really hard to make a female orgasm during sex..
Having a guy rub/lick on your clitoris will most likely give you a orgasm..
Also try other positions that also will help..
♥Dez
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