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a friend problem and i rate high
I have a huge problem! theres this girl, beka, who i cannot stand. She had a stroke before she was born and her arm and leg are paralized, but shes not in a weelchair. I dont judge her about her physical abilities. She takes a shower maybe once or twice a week, she never brushes her hair, and most disgustingly, she has bloody noses alot and she just lets it like dry up and sit there all over her nose!
the worst part is that she (voluntarily)sits with us at lunch and i can barely eat! We used to be friends (sort of... I never really liked her that much) a few years ago. Now she is kinda mean and just real weird. She cries alot when she doesnt get her way, and were in seventh grade! When im around her sometimes she is really rude to other people and I think they might not like me either. I think Beka thinks she can get away from things because of her problem, but she HATES it when people try to help her do stuff. It is SO confusing. I really dont want to be friends with her. Lately i have completely ignored her,even though i feel really bad about doing that. Most of the time she like bows down to me and follows me around EVERYWHERE. I have tried asking her to stop whatever shes doing wrong, and she says sorry about twenty times. But then she just keeps on doing what i asked her to stop doing! I dont know how to say that i dont want to be friends with her
I know it sounds mean, but I just cant stand her any more! SOMEBODY HELP PLEASE!!!
I RATE HIGH!!
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Wow, this is a tough one. I know you don't want to be mean; but at the same time, you need to keep your sanity.
I was in a similar situation in highshool. There was a girl who always tried hanging out with us and she never showered, and was scaring away other people from us. She would even throw tantrums. I remember one time when she voluntarily sat down with us; and I was talking about getting together that weekend with me friends. I never said she was invited, so she got out of her chair and threw it at us!
We did something very mean and I an NOT recommending you do this at all. We wrote her a letter telling her to stay away from us, and that people thought she smelled. I didn't really want to sign it, but my friends pressured me. I felt horrible and even phoned her that night to apologize.
I think the best thing to do is maybe talk to one of your teachers about the situation. Say that you don't want to hurt Beka's feelings, but that she is driving you crazy and that she is scaring away other potential friends.
It sounds like Beka is a very disturbed young lady and has a lot of personal problems that you just can't handle. Maybe she is having problems at home. You said she hardly ever showers or brushes her hair? These are both signs of depression. You also said she cries all the time. Maybe if you talk to your teacher, the teacher can phone Beka's parents and they can all work together to get her some proffesional help. She may even need to be on anti-depressants.
In the meantime, try to keep your distance. Don't be really mean to her either. Remember you are probably the only friend she has. I hope for your sake and Beka's that either her parents or her teachers will take this matter seriously and get her some help.
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Well I know how you feel I have a kid who sits at our lunch tabel and i hate him too lol
but i really dont know what you can do except either just flat out tell her how you feel (which would hurt her at first but then she would probably get over it) Or you can find another lunch table....you do have other people you could sit with right. Your last option is to just deal with it. School is nearly over just a few more months and if you just ignore her then you might just make. Its hard with people like that and i guess you just do what you want about it. People always bounce back so dont worry
hope that kinda helps..im still stuck with that kid at my table sadly lol
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First, before you do anything, put yourself in her shoes. Think how you would feel if everyone avoided you. It would be hard to get a friend. Maybe she's just desperate for someone who will confort her. Yeah, i no i sound like one of those annoying parents, but really. If you try to picture your life like hers, it would be hard.
If she gets too annoying, hook her up with a friend. maybe you could bring her a wet paper towel next time you see her so she can wipe her bloody nose. You don't have to rate high if you don't like my advice
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