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It's not true love...but is it just an infatuation or once i
So I'm 14/f and one of my friend's friend's cousin added me on msn about 3 months now. I don't talk to him alot and wen I do I find myself in this state: I start to flir with him and it gets to the point where he just keeps telling me how hott I am and stuff and then we don't talk for 5-7 days and between that time I really get out of it. Then wen I talk to him again the same thing happens. BTW...This boy is no prince charming (he's relly not hot or cute) and he's 15. So last night I was flirting with him like major! I mean we were talking bout tongue wrestling and he coming to my house. It's really not love cause it feels more like lust. I really enjoy talking to him and maybe flirting with him isn't the worst idea I ever had...but I really think it might somehow get serious and I spoil my name a reputation and esp. since his cousin is a relly gud friend of mind! Do you think he's using me because I'm pretty and he's not? And what do you think it is...an infatuation or just those once in a blue moon things..n if i like flirting with him (which I do) should I continue or will I give him a bad idea of what I think of him?
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There's no real way of knowing how he feels about you, without knowing him. My guess would be that he's at that age where hormones are kicking in and sex is starting to become a major prospect in his mind. While he's thinking about all this anyway, he has you flirting with him and suddenly he has someone to focus his sexual energy on.
It sounds very much like a lustful thing and that doesn't mean he's using you or doesn't like you in any other way...but at the same time you need to be sure he has some respect for you, rather than purely thinking of you as a sex object.
As you're only 14, you have a couple more years before you should really be considering having sex but it's a though which is almost definitely on his mind. Now, I'm not here to preach and I'm pretty sure you've already had the 'safe sex' and 'no sex underage' talk from teachers and parents but I will tell you that you need to make a decision. If you keep flirting with him and let him think you're thinking the same things he is, that's inevitabley where he will expect it to lead and what you need to think about at the end of the day is, do you really want your first time to be with him?
Flirting is always fine, within reason. You just need to work out where to draw the line and draw it in indellible ink!! And don't worry, if you decide you don't want to take things further, you can do it without hurting him. This is lust, not love.
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well, if you did like him then it would be okay to continue to flirt with him, but you don't, so I don't think that you should. You will continue to lead him to thinking that you like him and then it will just break his heart if/when you tell him that you don't. It is okay that you like flirting with him, that is just normal, but if he likes you, and it sounds like he does, then he will pursue you, and that might go a little ugly. In a way, no, I don't think that he is using you. I just think that he likes you. just remember that you don't want to hurt him. I hope that i helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate if you don't want to but it would be nice if you did. thanks!
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It's hard to say what to do exactly. Most people around those ages tend to do that a lot as it is. If he's approached you like that though it's a pretty good sign that he's into you like that, or he jut normally acts that way. Have you known him, or even of him, for a while? It'd be something if his cousin had told him about you and all of that. Everything starts out as an infatuation. But be careful that if you don't mean to make it more than the casual flirting, that he doesn't take it that way. Feeling are bad thing to play games with.
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