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my girlfriend's mom is...
ok, so 1st, i'm 18, my gf is 17. To be blunt, her mom is very imbalanced. she's like cinderalla's stepmother. , doing all these things. She constantly battering, yelling, and swearing at her. totally at random. and she's always making her do too much stuff. because of her, my gf is working 2 jobs, and she wants her to get more. On top of a really hard school load (4 AP classes), she always has a list of chores to do. Like to perfection, her mom will make her scrub the bathroom fro hours till its "right". She even kept her home from school so that she'd do more chores.
The thing is, i really, really care about her. I mean, its not healthy to be facing this all the time. It really is verabl and mental abuse. How can i get her to get help (or get help for her)?
I don't want it to seem that as a bf, i'm trying to drive her away from her mom, but she really needs help. i feel stuck. what can i do?
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I don't think turning her in to the law or cps is the answer at this point, and you certainly don't want to alienate the Mom or you will have hell to pay if she becomes your mother-in-law. Of course you don't want to drive her away, but she does need to get away..and since she is 17 the opportunity to do so is right around the corner. Focus on when your g/f turns 18, help her make plans to move out-either by getting money to go to college or a place of her own through working. If she is planning on college the hs counselor can help with that--since I get a sense that the mother might not help, your g/f might need to do it on her own with your help. If all else fails, she may wish to consider joining the military. Free money for school and a chance to live away from home. Can't be any worse than what her Mom puts her through! Take her to talk to a recruiter! You sound like a great guy to be so concerned! Good luck ;-)
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if her mom is really abusing her mentally or verbally which that's the way you make it sound you can annonomously report her to authorities. your gf is still a minor and that's not right. your gf could also talk to a legal office about being amancipated ( divorced from her parents) so that she could be out on her own. talk to your gf and see what road she would like to go down. sometimes good old fashioned therapy can do the trick.
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lol my bro had a similar problem. his girlfriends mom was a real " bitch". Now if he talks to her he gets arrested. Btw he is 16 and she is 15. Now they are appart because they cant see each other.
If i were you i would go talk to the guidence counciler about it. Thats all you can do.
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