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should i or shouldnt i?
okay so its hard for me to tell my whole situation here.. but ill try. i had this boyfriend last year. and everything was great. i loved him soooo much. but then he broke up with me. we stayed friends, but things werent the same. then school was out, and it was summer and we didnt talk at all. i really missed him, i couldnt stop thinking about him, and i knew i still loved him. then school started again, id see him in the halls and everything, and i wanted to talk to him.. but i was just to scared to. i was always wondering what he was thinking. he finally talked to me in december. he told me he still had feelings for me and everything, and that he had just been to nervous to talk to me. we talked for a while, and after a week or two, he asked me for a second chance. he knew he had messed up really badly last time, and he wanted to fix it. for some reason, i knew it was the right thing to do. so we've been going out for almost 2 months now. everything is great, and i love him more than anything. he feels the same way. we've talked about sex a couple times, and we decided that we're going to wait. we both want to, but we decided that waiting is the best thing to do. we know we're going to be together for the rest of our lives.. but just in case.. you know? so anyways, we started talking about it again lately, and im wondering if sometime when it feels right, if i should do it. like, ive always been the kind of person that knows i should wait until marriage, but waiting until then doesnt really matter if i know its with the person ill be with forever. and i know hes the one. so i guess im just wondering if i should do it or not.. i need other peoples opinions, but i dont want to ask my friends.
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Rushing into sex is never a good idea. I have to agree with what sizzlinmandolin told you.
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Everybody always says to follow your heart, but it's your head that's usually right. Don't have sex just because you feel ready. Have sex when you are ready. You have to be ready to face all of the risks both physical and emotional. You need to use an effective form of protection, know how it works, and know that it might not work. Are you ready for pregnancy? What happens if it really isn't forever? It sounds like you're still pretty young and a lot can happen in a few years. Would you refrain from using physical protection even though the chances of pregnancy are small? No. So why leave yourself unprotected emotionally? It's the people that believe nothing will happen that get in trouble. If you've decided that it's better not to have sex, stick with that. Sex isn't something that people should take so lightly. I hope that I helped you and good luck.
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