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okay so we are from new york state, and my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and he just found out that his grandpa was supposed to die within a week liek a week ago he found that out.. and his parents are down with his grandpa right now and he just found out he has to fly down to florida in 3 hours bc he had just passed away. I really need help on how to try to help him and liek what to say to him besdies im sorry and i love you. i feel so bad and hes so upset about it and im just really sad i cant be there to cofort him bc he has to go down to florida. HELLPP and maybe you can think of somethign i can do for him when he gets back (he leaves today saturday, and comes back tuesday)
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my best advice for this, is to just try to talk to him about .. i lost my grandfather who i was extrememly close with almost 7 years ago to a heart attack ..i didnt want to talk about it or anything and tried to keep everything to myself, and i had so many emotions bottled up in me .. then i lost my bestfriend of 3 years who i had also been going out with .. and my friend wouldnt let me get away without talking about it .. but it helped me .. so there is going to be a lot of yelling and screaming and anger .. and most likely crying, because everyone gets that feeling when someone dies, but just hold him .. hold him like your never gona let go .. thats the best thing that you can do, and try to get him to open up to you .. but the most important thing you can do, is show him that you care
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What a stressful situation. It sounds like both of you are going thorough alot. Your boyfriend because of the loss, and you because you can't be there with him helping him pull through.
I guess I can share a little personal preferance with you though. Three years back, my cousin (who is now 13) lost her father to a heart attack. I was and still is her best friend and she did something that I regret constantly now. She ignored it. She didn't talk about it, didn't give people any insight at all. I never pressured her into talking about it, because I had no idea what pain she was going through and I didn't want to make it worse.
This really sucks because now whenever someone mentions her father, she thinks of him with hate and spite because she thinks that he was the cause of all that bitterness.
Back to the topic, I am not really sure what you can do to comfort your hurting boyfriend... But just talk about it. He might not want to right away but I'm sure he'll come around. And when he does, make sure that he thinks of his grandfather with love and respect and remembers him that way.
Hope this Helps,
Katie
P.S. Also, make sure that your boyfriend knows you are always there for him. Give him a shoulder to cry on, if not two.
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Im sorry, theres not much you can do. Just hug him and hold him, comfort him. Let him know that your here for him. Just love him thats the only thing you can do. Its like on real world with Danny and Melenie, his mom died and she just loved him and held him while he cried. I'm sorry about the loss and that there isnt really mcuh you can do. And good luck!
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