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I'm 22, my boyfriend's 24 and we've been going out for 2 yrs. After the first year the dating had significantly decreased. He's excellent about calling me everyday as if we were married! However he has this thing about not taking me out and I've sorta broken it off with him before last summer about it and he begged me for another chance. He still seems to cling to the notion that he doesn't want to spend the night defending me and worrying about me. Nowadays it's starting to take it's toll about how i feel. I know he loves me but why doesn't he want to take me out? Friday and Saturday nights he works in club management, then he calls me over to his house about once a week, we're intimate, it's cool, we hang out but that's it! I brought up how i felt recently and he says he's been (for 3 weeks) looking at various gov't job offers I understand he's busy and I'm a busy too! but as the saying goes: if u want something bad enough you'll make time for it right? (and i don't mean booty calls) I was hoping I could get advice on how to go about getting some chivalry back into the relationship!
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From my opinion, I think that if he's s busy then you should call him to arrange a date and tme for when you guys could go out. A very romantic thing for you to do on that date is maybe take if to the places of your first date, or just set up a romantic picnic along the beach or something with candles and sweet scents. I wish you the best of luck!
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Well how about finding the Knight in Shinning Armor buried deep inside yourself?
Face it, our men can't do all the work and take all the initiative, all the time! Every girl wants to be swept off her feet but most of us seem to flat out refuse to so much as lift a finger to make it happen.
You want romance, make romance. You two are in funk, so set a new standard. In most relationships, people give what they get. If you give him a dinner by candlelight followed by a sensual massage, he'll be encouraged to return the favor and get in touch with his own creative and romantic side.
So buy the damn tickets, invite him out, don't ask or demand, invite. Surprise him with champagne or his favorite dinner. Give him what you would want to receive.
Chivalry has never been a one-way deal, it's just the fancy name for the kind of admiration a man gives a woman. There are plenty of ways for a woman to show a man she admires him as well. So lead by example. Stop telling him and show him what you are asking for. Only then will you know whether or not he is willing to put the effort forth.
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