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depression maybe?
lately ive been feeling really, well fed up with school, im only in the 7th grade, but i already feel like ive had too much. karma; today in school we had to write an essay about reasons not to drop out of school. but for some reason i didnt believe any word that i wrote. i jujst hate going to school, it kind of depresses me. I feel like i have no real friends, and every day this year ive just been wanting to get home so badly, and staying home for no reason at all. and ive been doing terribly in most all of my classes. i hate what i am actually. im not really that social, i prefer being alone, and seeing other people being social depresses me more. and its weird, but i feel like im friendlier with people who aret my friends. And im always nervous about what to wear, i feel like im trying to impress people, when i know that no one cares. I dont make friends easily, and i feel like all of my friends are making new friends, no one calls anymore. id rather be with my family than my 'friends'. i just dont know whats the matter with me. Depression? i dont know. its scaring me, because ive never been like this before. i just want to feel good again.
Help me figure out whats wrong and maybe what i could do about it? please and thak you < 33 xx
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I think your just sick of school becuase it's school! Everyone gets sick of it at some point. You should start a journal and write donw all the emotions and stuff you feel and maybe go see a counsler for someone to talk to.
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You just described my son exactly last year when he was in 7th grade. Exactly! So much that it's kind of freaky and I just had to respond. 7th grade is a totally weird time. Everything is changing! This is a prime time when kids are trying to figure out who they are, where they fit in, who their friends are, what kind of person they want to be so they will feel unique, valued, and accepted by their classmates. Unfortunately, in doing so, a lot of kids will morph between personalities in the process... changing friends, values, clothes as they try to figure it out. People who you think are friends, may turn and disappear in favor of being part of the in-crowd... whoever that may be (usually wherever the attention is). Not only that, but school changes as well. The work gets harder as they try to prepare you for high school and beyond. It's no wonder it all becomes overwhelming and a person just gets sick of dealing with it.
Sounds like this whole issue of friends (and making new ones) is difficult for you. You're not weird or anything... it's very common. It bothers you that your friends don't call and are out there making other friends, I know. My son experienced the same thing. His friends were there one day, and "ditching him" the next. He got to the point too where he was fed up and spent a lot of time at home as well. He would also say he doesn't have any friends, but that everyone else does.
My advice to him then, and to you now, is that he should just be himself and be proud of who he is. Don't try to make a whole bunch of changes to try to impress people. It'll drive you nuts! You don't need that right now. You'll make the biggest impression by being unique and rock solid in who you are and what you stand for. Understand that this is an odd time for everyone as they are growing up and changing, and that you're not strange for feeling as you do. To me, it says that
you are special in not wanting to get all caught up in the drama of being the popular one. That's a good thing. I know it still sucks in the meantime. Continue to be as friendly as you can to everyone (friends or not), not for the sole purpose of "making friends" and being social, but simply because that is who you are. Spending time with family is good too (if you have a family you enjoy)... it can keep you grounded and help you stay close to your roots.. the things that made you the individual you are today. As much as possible, try to stay involved with things at school. You don't have to be the popular, social one... but keep yourself out there so people can see the real you, ya know?
Going into 8th grade, I bet you'll see that you'll get along with a lot more people than you ever did in 7th grade. (This is how things came around for my son all on their own) You'll have many more people who you will call your friends and hang out with. They might not necessarily be close friends that you always do stuff with, but you'll still hang out during school things and you'll feel much more accepted and happy with your life. Kids start to mature a little more and aren't so caught up in all this change in 7th grade. As you go into high school, it will get even better. Honest!
If it gets to the point where it really brings you down, tell your parents. Tell your school counselor. It's a rough time, and a lot of kids out there are going through the same thing... and sometimes just need to talk it out with someone. Try not to let the whole friend / social thing bother you right now. This will improve with time for sure, and if you just continue to be yourself, , you'll see that this will go a long ways for you. Use this time to focus on the things you enjoy... hobbies, family, school stuff. Don't worry about your grades, just do the best you can right now! I know it's hard to focus on schoolwork with all the other stuff going on. Spending time alone is not always a bad thing either. It's a great time to chill and think through things... sort stuff out.
Hang in there, ok? It does get better, I guarantee it... but remember not to be afraid to get some additional help if you really feel depressed and withdrawn from it all. It can be a lot to deal with, and there's no shame in getting some assistance. Start with your parents or a school counselor, and don't hesitate to lay out your feelings as you've done here!
Ok? Rock on! You'll be ok... just keep pushing through, and I'll bet you that next year will be a whole lot better! (As far as what to wear.. wear whatever is most comfortable! Fashion can be so overrated. Be unique and comfy! Jeans and t-shirt. There. Wardrobe complete.)
Keep smiling!
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