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best friend
i have a really close guy best friend but he's been kinda distant from me nowadays. we used to talk a lot online and on the phone. then we got really far from each other when i started going out with my bf. we hardly talk anymore now and he's been acting kinda depressed too. i asked him what's wrong, but he won't tell me anything. he would always have these depressing messages about love and how his life is messed up and etc.
what's up with him? is there anything i can do to get us to be as close as before again?
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Sounds like he's upset about not being the main man in your life anymore. That could be platonic or could indicate he has feelings for you. Either way seems like he feels pushed pushed out and if you want to make it right you're going to have to talk to him and show him that you having a boyfriend doesn't mean he can't talk to you like he used to and vice-versa.
Oh and maybe try to include your boyfriend a little in your friendship with this guy to reduce jealousy on both sides.
Good luck
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Let him know that even though you have a boyfriend, it doesn't change the fact that he's still your best friend.
Of course, the less (or perhaps more?) obvious cause of his apparent malaise may be an unrequited (or not?) love for you in some fashion. In any case, you should have a heart felt chat with the fellow to find out what's wrong. Do it in person if possible (that is, if you can coax him out of the little emotional dark hole he has dug for himself). He might need a shoulder to cry on after unleashing all of his pent up emotions. Be understanding and comfort him if this happens. After all, he's only human.
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he most likely feels left out and like he's losing his best friend. i felt the same way when my best friend started dating his g/f.
you should set aside time to hang out with him alone so he still knows he's a part of your life.
maybe he has a secret crush on you, if hes saying how messed up his life is.
or perhaps hes trying to get your attention back onto him and away from your boyfriend.
or perhaps his love life really is messed up
haha yeah hope i helped :]
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