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does anyone have any suggestions on how to be more open? i've been too used to keep everything to myself. most of the time that i have expressed my feelings about something or a problem, i find that i made things worse, or hurt others. i do want to be more open, but almost everytime i try my feelings get the best of me. my girlfriend has been such a big help - i actually do like to tell her everything - but i wouldn't want to hurt her by being moody when my feelings do get the best of me... any advice? thanks - its much appreciated.
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don't worry- i have the same problem. i seem to be "open" at the wrong moments and things just started to spiral downwards. i keep a journal where i write all my thoughts down and although it helps me get it out, i'm the only person that knows and so no one else knows what i'm going through.
i'm still in the process of trying to be more open, however, so i can't fully advise you on what to do- i can only tell you what i have learned thus far. choose one person, in your case your girlfriend, that you have to be fully open with no matter what. start with one and gradually go to two and then three.
at least that's what i'm doing. i find that the more i tell my best friend EVERYTHING, the less scary it is to leave things in the open, and the easier it is to tell my other friends a few things. at least the minor stuff. ya noe?
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i do all of this. im still very closed in. What I did, was create an anonymous blog, where I post all my feelings and such.
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You need to learn how to trust people more often. Telling people something that's bothering you or anything like that will make probably make them understand you better. I'm not saying to go around & tell everybody your deepest darkest secrets, but just trust people when they say that you can trust them. If you have really trustful friends, then you know that they can never betray your trust. Some people will tell you to trust them but then they'll backstab you & it'll turn into a big mess. I'm not saying everyone is like that though.
Maybe you can start a little journal thing to express yourself. I did that for like a month and it really helped me. It might for you too. You can't let feelings get to you though. Try and fight them.
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you need to find someone that you kan talk about anything.. like a best friend or your gurl friend... and actually tell them everything.. the more you keep it to your self the harder its gonna be for you and the worse it can get..
&& hope i helped
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