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Long - Sorry.
This is very long, sorry. I'm just trying to provide enough information for you guys to get enough info.
So this guy used to like me four years ago (he was a popular guy) and I hated him because he was a jerk. He stopped liking me, I think. A year later, I started to like him even though everyone else still thinks he’s an ass. I just think he’s secretly very sweet. Anyway, this year he became kind of famous. Throughout these four years, we keep staring at each other all the time. It’s very odd. But none of us made a move till now.
Elaine and I are in yearbook (she is pretty popular too). We had to interview him because he won the “most likely to be rich and famous” thing.
So we see his teacher and we ask her if we can interview him. She went inside and told him there were some ladies there to see him. He watched me approach him with surprise.
I walked inside the room and said hi.
Then he leaned back and said the first thing he's said to me in about four years,
"What's up?"
I told him he won the award and I wanted him to come do a question thingie. So he got up and came with me.
We were walking down the hallway and I said "You won the rich and famous thing... which I don't understand because you're rich and famous already." He paused and did this modest agreeing shrug thing like meaning, Yeah well, what can I say?. which is odd because you’d think he’d be cocky as usual.
So we took two pictures of him. I asked him if he wanted to do it later and he said he didn't care. Then I asked Jake why he thought he won this award, he said it was probably because everyone knows him or something. He couldn’t think if anything else so I told him we'd do it tomorrow. I asked him if he'd be in school tomorrow (he skips a lot) and he shrugged. We started walking down the hall again and he went left into his classroom hall.
A few minutes later, we were walking and these friends of Jake’s showed up and talked to Elaine. Then I saw a friend of mine in front of us coming towards us and right behind her was Jake at the soda pop machine. He got his drink and started walking towards us too.
Jake’s friends sat on the ledge. Carey and I started discussing the yearbook and the guys decided to get a picture taken. So Jake asked what the picture was for and we all said the memories page. He said he wasn't going to do it because he wasn't going to be in the yearbook twice in the same outfit. He got off the ledge and folded his arms across his chest and then looked at me. After the pics were done, Jake sat on the ledge again when it looked like everyone was going to leave. So they moved away so he had to get up and go with them. After they left, Elaine and I were walking down the hall again and Elaine said Jake was nice when he was alone but he was a dick when he was with his friends. The next day, I was walking down the hall during that block. Jake was walking towards his classroom with a pop can in his hand and I guess I prolonged eye contact because he put his hand on the door handle and waited. I asked him if he had though of anything and he responded with the likes of "I don't know" or "Not yet" or something and did this little continuous awkward shrug thing. I sad "Ok, we'll do it later."
So is he interested? What do you think.
Thank you SOOO much. I just need some kind of confirmation because I've like him for so long. I'll give you 5's.
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Well you were certainly right about your story being long lol.. Well my answer kind of is too so oh well :) To answer your question, I don't think he is really interested in doing the interview. When a guy shrugs things off and says things like "I don't know" or "I'm not sure yet" they generally are just trying to be nice and not say what they really are feeling. You said he has been acting "humble" and not "cocky" like usual. He has been nicer than usual and not really rubbing the whole "rich and famous" thing in everyone's faces. So since he is acting nicer, it makes sense that he might be trying to kindly blow you off with the interview. But of course it never hurts to ask to try and find out his true intentions. Being that he is more popular now than before and that it has been 4 years since you guys really have talked, I think catching up between you two would be nice. But I think he would rather you try and get to know him through better terms, than an interview about how he is rich and famous. I would feel that way too. Maybe he feels like you are just starting to like him now because of his new acclaimed fame. And maybe that is why he keeps shrugging off the interview. If he does still like you then the best thing to do is try to get to know him and talk with him. And when you do, don't bug him so much about the fame. Focus on getting to know HIM. Money and fame is not what he is all about! I suggest asking him one more time about the interview. Say something like, "Hey Jake. Not trying to get on your nerves or anything, but I really was wondering if this interview thing is going to work out. If you don't want to do it that's fine." By saying that you put him in the position of actually saying how he feels and he doesn't feel like such a jerk if he declines, because you already told him that it wouldn't be a big deal if he couldn't. Now if he says yes and you guys set up a time and place to do the interview, here is your chance to get to know him. Go somewhere you can relax and hang out, like Starbucks or something. It's comfortable and will make him feel alot more at ease. During the interview, don't just read off the questions and jot down his answers in a monotone voice. Comment on his answers and then actually tie in some questions that you want to know about him, and then it will be more like a conversation, not an uncomfortable interview, which I'm sure he will appreciate, since he seems to have issues with the whole interview in the first place. After all your questions, continue talking with him and let him get to know you too. Don't be nervous and act funny around him. Just be yourself and get to know the REAL him, the nice guy you know he is deep down inside. He will really like that you are trying to get to know him. And since you are starting off square one with him, act friendly and maybe a little flirty, but do not throw yourself at him and tell him how much you have liked him. That should be your little secret until you guys are better aquainted and you know how he feels about you too. Keep it friendly for right now and that's it. Good luck with him hun! I'm sure it will go alright. Just don't stress and remember to just be yourself. Just give it a try, because you never know what can happen. I really hope I helped you and if you need any more advice, just note my inbox. Best of luck!
~Sherah
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I wouldn't get my hopes up, sorry hun. But hey, let him know YOU'RE interested, and see what he thinks.
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wow! umm... you said that he liked you before so yeahh maybe he does still like you... who knows!?! but then again it was 4 years ago. but if he does like you then he could show it a little better instead of just shrugging. next time you talk to him or see him, flirt. see what he does about it. just saying what i think!
XO KALIE
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I think you should make a move, i know guys usually do it, but in your case, try to talk to him alone, see what he says, if he does say no, then just leave it alone till he comes to you, then it will be better for both of you!
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