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One of my friends likes this guy, and while I was at her house I started talking to him on AIM; we had a good conversation, so when i got home I asked for his sn, because we got along pretty well. I've been talking for him for two or three weeks, now and I'm starting to get the feeling that I may like him. I really don't want to do anything to make my friend mad at me or him, and I don't want it to seem like I'm stealing him from her. I don't want to tell either of them that I do like him, because I'm not positive. I don't want to make something bad if it's just a phase or whatever. What should I do?
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You're venturing into a situation which you really don't want to find yourself into. I'd say stop talking to him right now, or at least for a little while until these feelings pass. If he's out of sight, he'll be out of your mind. By talking to him all the time, you're only going to make the feelings stronger. Of course, the feelings might not be genuine, but you definitley need some time away from him anyway.
Your friend trusted you enough to let you speak to him, so if you went for him, it could get REALLY messy. It's not your fault or anything at all, these things happen all the time. I've seen so many people fall for their friends crushes, and such. But someone always ends up getting hurt.
I'm sure there's other guys out there who you can concentrate on. Maybe this guy has some nice friends. Hey, maybe your friend will stop liking him. But for now, forget about him.
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Stop talking to him. Remove yourself from this situation right now. Because if he ends up liking you too, it could get really messy.
On all counts, your friend has claimed this guy and if you start becoming romantically involved with this boy, you -are- stealing him from her.
Never put your friendship before any guy. Just forget about him before you start becoming too attached.
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Since you aren't sure if you like him or not, keep talking to him and find out. I know that you don't want to hurt your friends feelings and that's a good thing, but if you do end up liking him you can't do anything about that or change your feelings. Take the time and see if you like him. You are probablly having weird feelings right now and you probablly don't want to like him because your friend does and you shouldn't do that. If you do end up to like him, make sure you tell your friend. She deserves to know and if she does get mad then she isn't being a very good friend. Just talk to her and if she is hurt then just be there for her but you can't control how you feel. Good luck.
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Well if you went after him you would kind of be stealing him from her...I mean, you started talking to him at HER house, and she trusted you not to do anything like this when she gave you his screen name.
I think you should just ignore it and find someone else to like, maybe even stop talking to him. It's not so hard since you really haven't known him that long yet. Your friend might stop liking him within a month or two anyway, and then you'll be in the clear. You really shouldn't risk your friendship over it though, especially if it's something you aren't "positive" about.
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