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Mrs. S
I've had the same best friend since third grade and we're now in the tenth grade. Lately it seems like I'm looseing her. She's been hanging out with 2 of her other good friends and she always makes plans with them instead of me. And since shes been hanging out with them shes tried smoking, and the other night she called me at 2am beyond drunk from some guys house that she didnt know (the other 2 girls knew him though) and i dont know what else they were doing that night. i know one of the girls is a regular smoker and smokes weed as well, and my friend always tells me how she thinks its disgusting and how if i ever did it she would be so mad at me (it meaning smoking cigarettes or pot)and im wondering why she doesnt complain when they do it as opposed to me. And i was also wanting to know maybe why she doesnt want to hang out with me as much anymore.
(if this doesnt make much sense im sorry)
thanks Mrs. S!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
I'm really sorry. I can tell how broken hearted you are over all this.
This is the most common advice I get asked though. If you have time, read back through some of the other questions like yours and the answers I've given. They all have a slightly different story but they are basically about friends going down different paths and how painful it is when it happens.
This is one of the hardest parts of highschool. Even I had a bff that I lost in HS. We did everything together in middle school. We had all honors classes and athletics together, we dressed alike, etc. But in high school, she decided I was a prude. She started having sex and hanging out with a completely different crowd. At first, I wanted to hold on to our friendship so bad that I even considered conforming to her new lifestyle but I just couldn't go through with it and I had to let her go. It was so weird to have this good friend suddenly seem like a stranger to me. But today, I see how her life turned out and I know I made the right decision to let her go because it's not the life I would have wanted for myself (BTW - She seems quite content with her life so she probably looks at MY life as undesirable as well)
Going down different paths is inevitable.
Change is part of life.
Sometimes it seems horrible when it's happening but follow your heart and follow your OWN beliefs and you will find happiness (it just may not be where you expected.)
Stay true to your own self and find others with your common beliefs and you will have no regrets.
Let me know if this helps.
Love, Mrs S
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