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Well, I was born in Europe and then I moved here in America. My family and I had to start all over again. My parents had to find new jobs, buy a new home, cars and everything. Now, we're living life like normal people and we have more then most people.
Neather of my parents went to collage because thier families couldn't afford it back thenI love my mom to death but I feel like she's working soo hard just to make us happy. My dad had a great job and he's very happy with it but I feel so sorry for my mom. She cleans for a living.. I know it's sad but I feel so bad. Sometimes I just wish I was more supportive and that I didn't argue with her so much because she works SO hard for us & at times I can be ungrateful for the things I have but I always want more.
Since she didn't go to collage, is there any way she can get a new and better job. She always talks to me about how she just wants me & my brother to do good in school and someday that we will be very succesful. I don't want her to wake up everyday for the next 20 years going to work and clean! I want my mom to be happy just like we are and not have to do what she hates for the rest of her life.
I try to be a great kid and not argue and help out but I'm just a regular 14 year old teenager and it's normal to fight with parents but after that I feel soo bad and sorry for her.
Any advice on this? I get tears in my eyes just thinking about her. I want her to be happy and do something that she loves. I want her to get a better job but that seems to be hard for her.
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wow you surely love her i only hope one day my daughter will grow to be as in tune to things as you i also work really hard but i deal with mentally retarded people all day wiping thier butts and being attacked and cleaning drool and throw up. i do it because i love her and want the best for her . with the money i make i buy her clothes and pay her tuition for private kindergarten. it takes most my money im left with a little bit of money when all is said and done but luckily i have a wonderful man in my life that is strong and takes the wheel. i do all this because i love her not for any other reason then the mere fact that when you have a child there is a thing in a woman that comes out of her. its a strong will to survive and keep her children happy at all cost. it is a natural instinct. your mom im sure loves you immensely and all i can say is dont ever question why or how she does it hun. she is a mom and it is what she needs and wants to do. now of course there are days i need a break and feel like giving up... im human but on those days just kinda help her out and let her know how grateful you are for all she does because sometimes i wonder if my child will ever know the extent in which i had to work and how tired i can get to make her have the life i hope she will be comfortable in. i think it would be great if you told her what you said in this letter. it was very heartfelt and real and it genuinely shows the love and gratitude you feel for her. im sure she could get a better job hun. maybe she likes the cleaning job because it works around her schedule. that is a HARD job i have done that. maybe she should look into working at the supermarket they have great benefits and flexible hours. great pay to i worked at safeway grocery 10 years and made 17 a hr. good luck and god bless
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Many paths lead to happiness in life. Perhaps your Mom doesn't have the greatest career, but it sounds as if she isn't counting on her job to give meaning and happiness to her life.
Rather, she is counting on her children for that. For her, working hard and earning money is worthwhile if it provides the opportunity for you and your brother to achieve more than she was able to.
The key phrase in your description is, "She always talks to me about how she just wants me & my brother to do good in school and someday be very successful."
That is how you can help her be happy. She lives for you and through you, which is not uncommon for parents, even the ones with wildly successful careers.
You are a wonderful daughter and your Mom is very proud of you. Just keep doing what you're doing, and everything will be fine. You have a good heart, and your mom is very lucky to have a daughter who loves her so much.
Dr. Chad
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Here is the story of my mother. Let your mom read this and maybe it will inspire her as it has me. My mom dropped out of highschool and married at 15 to my father. After long years of scraping to make ends meet, she decided that she didn't want her children to live like that anymore and the only way to change her life was to get an education. Once I was in elementary school, she started classes to get her GED. She started Jr. College and worked three jobs to pay her way through. It took a lot of time effort and the whole family's support, but today my mother is an Elementary School art teacher with a Masters Degree in Art Education and a BS in Business Management. Both of her children have graduated from college and she and my father are still together after 40 years of marriage. It's NOT easy or fast, but it can happen. Good luck!
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Why don't you tell her all of this? Better yet, you could even just let her read this. It might inspire her to look for something better and, at the very least, she would know how much you care and it would probably make her year. You could try to get her to post her resume on one of those job web sites and see if anything comes up, but ultimately she has to be the one who wants to be proactive and get a new job.
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