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how do i talk about my thoughts?
I am confused. I really need someone I can talk to about things, but I don't know who to turn to. My friends are great, but I just can't talk to them. My parents are great too, but I can't talk to them either. I don't know what to do. I was considering going to the school guidance counselor, but I'm afraid to. I'm sort of afraid of guidance counselors in general anyway. I really want someone to talk to about some things that go on in my head, but I am afraid to, if that makes any sense. I'm also annoyingly specific and paranoid about who I talk to. It has to be a person person. As in, someone who I can see who can be in the same room as me. Online stuff has never worked for me. And...it has to be an adult...or at least someone older than me who I look up to.
I've never trusted people before and I don't know how to now. I suppose I could always try and talk to the guidance counselor or someone like that, but I am really scared of my guidance counselor. I'm not as afraid of the other ones, but since they are all guidance counselors, I can't help being afraid of them. I also don't want to get myself admitted to a hospital and would really prefer that they didn't tell my parents. It's not like I'm doing anything terrible; I mean, I'm alive, aren't I? But I think that if I said too much most people would freak out. I guess my mind is just a little mixed up sometimes and people can't handle that. But how can I figure out what's real and what's not and all that other confusing stuff without help? I need someone to talk to but I'm afraid that bad things will happen. What do I do?
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bad things will not happen to you if you talk about how you are feeling. i have been in and out of therapy for years, and when i look back on everything, when i was in therapy, i felt my strongest. i know how you feel, when you think that people will freak out if you tell them too much. i have a post traumatic stress disorder, and a panic disorder. you can only imagine trying to explain to a teacher why you ran out of the room in fear while watching saving private ryan. therapy is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
if you want to talk to me more, please, feel free to email me: chelseaisawesomekthnx@gmail.com
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anonymous -
I can understand that your paranoia envelops you in fear of being criticized. You need to find someone who is understanding, open-minded, and respectful to talk to. You can find a lot of people like that here on advicenators. The best part is, you're confidentiality depends on you.
If you'd like, I will personally volunteer to be someone to speak to. I don't judge people if I do not know them, I am very optimistic and understanding. I do not make assumptions nor do I jump to conclusions based on information given. I often ask for clarification and am online often. If you are interested, my email is mylinhthan@hotmail.com and my AOL IM screename is mylinh3o3 (I'd suggest you contact me via email considering that my AIM seems to crash a lot lately).
To make you feel a little more at ease, everyone has unusual thoughts, some probably more unusual than you may think. Nobody is perfect.
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I'm not at all clear on what you feel the problem is, but you do have options. It's understandable that you're nervous around guidance counselors; I was, too. Some are good at what they do, but their primary expertise is educational and vocational guidance, and it sounds like you need an expert in behavioral issue - or, as it's commonly referred to, mental health.
You can talk to your parents about speaking to a therapist; if they're not sure what to do, you might check with your doctor. S/he should be able to give you a referral.
Depending on what sort of health insurance you have, there may also be a number on your card for you to call for referral to a behavioral specialist.
Will bad things happen? That depends. Look at it this way: if you have a behavioral issue, it's not going to go away if you ignore it. If anything, it could get worse.
A lot of people are embarrassed to admit that they have a mental issue. That's a mistake. Behavioral problems are real, as real as a broken leg, and you can't "think" them better. Nor do they mean that you're a bad person, or that you've failed somehow.
The good news is that there are a lot of effective treatment options out there, even if all you need is to talk to a therapist for a few sessions.
Right now, you're probably living through the worst of it; you're afraid, and uncertain, and you don't have someone to talk to. Talk to your parents or a doctor, get some help from an expert, and I'm sure you'll feel a lot better.
Good luck!
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Hmmmm I'm seriously gonna try my best on this. I'm new and stuff but sometime in the past I felt the same way. You say it has to be person to person but I thought the same thing but I've tried other approaches to it. The best solution for me was writing poetry and people say I'm an excellent poet. I can express about my brother trying to commit suicide, how much I care for my girlfriend, why I'm so shy towards girls, and alot more. If it was me I'd try to write poems or just write it down and maybe keep a diary or journal or something. And I know you're afraid to talk to people but I think a good idea is talk to someone you think you can trust and contiune talking to them. My best friend Steve Youngbauer, I met him half a year ago, and I already trust the kid with my life. He's helped me do so much and is literally just like me and I trust him with everything and it contiunes to show because I know he doesn't tell anyone. So I recommend writing poetry or keeping your thoughts down and expressing them on paper or find someone like my friend Steve if you can. I hope I helped.
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