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my sister..
Me and my sister are pretty close. She tells me everything, I tell her everything. I'm 15 and she's 17 almost 18. My sister had a boyfriend for almost 3 years. He's completly rude. I never liked him one bit. He pushed my sister into a chair AT OUR HOUSE and she started crying and he ran off. Like..left our house. He always cussed at her and they almost argued everyday. They broke up 11 months ago. Once they broke up, he got another girlfriend , and my sister went balistic on him and he threatened to call the police on her. Again, that was 11 months ago..And they haven't spoken since..
My sister met this one guy who is gorgeous. He's really sweet and i think he's good for her. They've been "talking". I like him and i think she deserves a guy like this.
Two days ago, my sister went to a party and saw her ex there. Near the end of the party, he pulled her over and started asking how she was and all that. When she told me this i got soo mad. She practically said "I hate the way i'm always running to him!"
I don't want her running back to him. Chasing him and then having him make her feel like crap. I think that the new guy that she met is good for her. She realizes it. But after her ex through a couple of pretty words to her, she's wanting to hang out with him. I know i should let my sister do whatever she wants, its her life not mine. But i don't want my sister ending up hurt or anything! I really want her to realize that if she goes back to him, she'll get hurt again. What can i say to her to make her realize that he isn't good for her? Please help me. My family doesn't like him and neither do I. At first, my sister thought he was crap for her, but after she talked to him, she thinks they are going to go out. Please help me.
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remind her the bad things he has done to her, and tell her all the good things about her boyfriend she has now.
good luck, i hope she doesn't go back to him :-(
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I think you realise this already, but there's really nothing you can do beyond saying what you've already said to her about how you feel about him. I sympathise with your dilemma - it's horrible to watch somebody you love do something you know isn't going to make them happy in the long term, but life is about making choices, and that entails sometimes making mistakes.
You are lucky that you are close to your sister and can talk to her about this. It is worth trying this route, as she may only need a gentle reminder to remember what this guy is really like. But if she's determined that he's changed or the relationship is worth a second chance the best thing to do is let her do it rather than try to persuade her as strongly as you can. Of course it's tempting to go on and on about his faults and how awful he was to her, but the problem with this strategy is that if she chooses to go back to him anyway and does get hurt as you forsee happening, she might feel too embarassed to come to you for advice or consolation.
Remind her of his faults and the reason for their original breakup, yes, but think less is more so that whatever happens the relationship between the two of you doesn't suffer and she still feels able to come to you for advice. All the best.
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Just talk to her and remind her about all the times he cussed at her and made her feel like crap. Then, ask her how many times this new guy has done this to her... make her answer. She just needs to know that this guy won't change, he treated her like crap before and will continue to do that. the only reason he's sweet talking her is because he knows he can get her back and he obviously just wants some stuff from her. You have every right to interfere in her life about this, cause this choice will drastically effect her and all that will happen is that she will get hurt. Make sure she understands this and tell her how much you like this new guy she's found. Point out all his good qualities and talk about how much nicer he is.
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you can remind her about all the things hes done to her and tell her that you really like this new guy and the whole family hates the other guy well doesnt like him very much. maybe you can plan something nice for your sister and her new boyfriend. hope i helped!!
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