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hey Mrs Slavik! its kiersten! and i need advice so bad!
sry this is long but i have a really big problem and i have nooo idea how to deal with it. ok so i usually go to my dads house for new years and stay here for christmas and we switch every year and im supposed to go there for new years this year and well my mom has been trying to get him to get a tiket for me for like two months then like two weeks ago my step dad called him nicely and was like "you know we want to go to my moms house but we dont know when you scheduled the ticket" and my real dad said he would get it tomorrow so we didnt hear from him then like the next week my mom called him and he said there was something wrong with the airlines and said he would get it the next day well we didnt hear from him and we tried contacting him but he never contacted us back then on thursday he called us and said he had just my ticket that day and he only got a one way and he gave my mom a week in advance to get a return ticket those are like really expensive if u get them this late and we dont have the money to get it and my dad knows that then the other day my step mom wrote my mom a really nasty email saying that my mom doesnt deserve to be a mother and that shes a horrible one now i liked my step mom but wat makes me mad is that my real dad allowed my step mom to write this email and why would my dad wait so late to get my ticket to go there when he knows that we cant afford a return ticket i feel like he almost doesnt want me there my dad has never put me down in my life and my parents have stoped fighting for about a year now and he just really makes me mad how he would let my step mom write that email and start everything up again and my mom says he's trying to get back at her and just make her mad but i know that he would never try and stick me in the middle more than i already am gah i just wish they could all get along im so angry i have no clue how to deal with this at all my mom already feels terrible and i not really mad at anyone other than my step mom im just sorta mad at the situation! ah help! thnx so much!
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I just tried talking to you online because I have a few questions but you're away.
I think there is more going on here than you see.
Does your Dad travel a lot for his job? The reason I ask that is because when you travel, you accumulate "points" to use towards free airline tickets. When you said, "there was something wrong with the airlines" it made me think about how impossible it is to cash in those points for tickets during the holidays. I've been explained that the airlines designate only a handful of seats on each flight to be used for point remibursement. And almost everytime I've tried to cash mine in, I could get either the departure date or the return date but not both. I wonder if this is what is happening. It sure sounds familiar. That would explain the one way ticket.
Regarding your Stepmom - did you read my reply below about "the dog in pain?" I've found that there is almost ALWAYS a reason that people lash out beyond the obvious.
Christmas time is a HUGE strain on parents. Getting the perfect gifts, dealing with crowds, the MONEY that is being spent, etc! I read that December is the number one month people complain about depression. It's a lot of pressure as an adult. This strain is hard to understand when you are a kid because it's THE most exciting time of the year! It's a lot of FUN when you are the KID! Try and be sensitive to the strain both sets of parents are probably under right now.
I'm certainly not excusing your stepmoms attack on your mother but I AM wondering if it isn't (at least partially), a misunderstanding. Sometimes emails don't properly project the intended message.
Let's talk more about this online. Here are some questions I think you should try and find answers too -
1. Have you talked with your stepmom?
2. Have you heard all sides of what's going on?
3. Is it possible that the divorce papers say that they share the airline tickets expense?
4. Did you read the email from your stepmom?
The answers to these questions could change the way you feel about what is going on.
My answer isn't much help right now but maybe after we talk, we can figure it out. It's sad to see this happening during the holidays. But it's more normal than you realize.
Looking forward to talking to you online.
Much Love,
Mrs S
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