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leading guys on
apperently i have a major problem with leading guys on? but thats not the worst part...the worst part is not being able to just be straight up with a person telling them "i dont like them like that" even saying it nicely "your a great guy,we should deffinitly hang out sometime but a friendship is all i can offer you" is just way to hard to say sometimes. so ever since i broke up with one of my exes we have been tight, and i love being friends with him...problem he asked me to chill this weekend and i said i couldnt b/c of exams next week, so he was like what about over winter break, we should go to the movies sometime" n now we are close friends so i was like yeah sure and he goes "alright so its a date" um i kinda like froze n iwas like "yeah um i have to go" how the heck do i get out of this one... i mean i love this kid to death...as a bestfriend! help!
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hm, sounds like me a year or two ago. everyone i knew called me things like tease, flirt, etc. but the thing is, these guys were my friends. whatever i was doing was going completely wrong. to me, i was just talking to a guy, right? but to these guys, even though i didn't like them, it was a little more. i had relationships that i didn't even want half the time because i also had trouble saying no. i went out with the same guys multiple times because i didn't want to turn them down and hurt their feelings and have them not talk to me.. but i'm not with any of them now i still talk to them, even though we're not going out. so really, just not letting it get too far is the best idea. what you really need to do is tell the kid you don't have physical feelings for him, you just want to be friends and that's all. if it changes anything between you guys, that's really unnecessary, because it shouldn't. in that case, talk to him and tell him you like him and you want to be his friend but he needs to understand that it isn't going to get any further than just friends.
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I think you should be more blunt in telling him what you want. Tell him "I just want to be friends, I don't want anything more." It shouldn't be hard for him to understand, if you say it like that.
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Before i start, i'm a guy just so you know.
Ok so wait..do you want to get out of going? or do you want to get out of going as more than friends?
Here's how to get out of going as more than friends or making it a date..
The next time you guys talk about the movies like when you're going to go, just be like "we're just going to the movies as friends right?" Then if he says yea then you say "ok good just making sure." If he says that you guys were going out on a real date, say "i'm not really interested in dating right now. i just wanna be friends." That should work.
Here's how to get out of going altogether..
All you have to do is make up some kind of excuse why you cant go. "i have to babysit. i'm going out of town. i got in trouble and now i cant." Any of those should work.
Good luck and hope i helped! HM911
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