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married friend hit on me when my bf left the room
Me and my bf were out on the town the other night. We met up with some other of our friends. Well my bf left for a couple minutes to pay for our drinks. This other friend of ours who is married came up to me. He said " you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen". Well I looked at him with my eyes wide and then he said "as a friend", but I know he was seriously attracted to me by the look in his eyes.
I didnt really know what to say. I was flattered but felt guilty because his wife was sitting at another table. I know she couldnt hear and I think he waited on purpose to get me alone.
Now I don't know how to act around this guy. I told my bf and he was really pissed off. I told him not to say anything because i was worried this other guy and his wife might have a fight.
What should i do?
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well the best thing to do is to tell the guy swife you never know he could go out and cheat on her and have a kid if this is happening now they would probally were going to get adivorce any way.
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tell him you have a beautiful wife and your a nice guy and all and married to a nice girl.
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tell him your a married man you should be in love with the person you married.
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Depending on you and this married guy's wife. If you and his wife are friends- tell her. She might be mad at first- but she'll thank you in the end. Avoid this married guy as much as possible. Tell your boyfriend you are worried about it and see what he tells you to do.
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If you and your boyfriend find yourselves in the company of this guy again, I recommend that you BOTH act as normally as possible. Your boyfriend does not have to stick to you like glue because I have a sure-fire comment you can make that should make this married flirt back-off FAST. I've used it before and it does work. You can very firmly and seriously tell him that if he hits on you again (and he is hitting on you) that you will have to inform his wife - your OTHER friend - AND your boyfriend. Tell him that his behavior is inappropriate even if he's saying it "as a friend." The tell him that he needs to go over and be with his WIFE, then you go off to be with your boyfriend, or other friends...meaning, walk away from the guy to allow your words time to sink in. Don't stick around for him to try to make excuses like telling you "[I said it] as a friend." LOL If he were to be thinking of you ONLY as a friend, then he should have no problem whatsoever to give you a compliment IN FRONT of your boyfriend. For example, he could say, "'Rob' [name for your boyfriend], 'Lisa' [your name] is such a beautiful woman. I'm sure you would agree. You're a handsome couple." A lot of guys wouldn't do this of course, but I'm trying to say that it is okay to give compliments to other people's partners in such a way that it is not a come-on.
Let your boyfriend in on how you intend to handle this guy should he approach you again. Your boyfriend will hopefully agree to handle this guy with maturity and decency. If for some reason this guy is completely idiotic and stubborn and continues to hit on you when you all are out together, then, in front of him, be true to your words and say to "Rob," "Sweetie, do you know what 'John' just said to me?..." That will surely wake the guy up and he'll probably be stumbling all over himself to make up something to say to your boyfriend. Let him try to get out of his mess on his own. Tell your boyfriend to remain calm and say whatever he thinks is appropriate at the time. Sure, try to keep this guy's wife out of this mess, but if he goes too far, don't hesitate to act on your warning and tell her that her husband is hitting on you. She certainly won't be happy, and maybe she already knows that he's a boar, so be prepared for a reaction that may not be what you want or expect. My suggestion is to leave her out of this completely or at least as long as possible. I suspect she does know he's a flirt. You have the power to cut this guy off. Take control of the situation. And your boyfriend can help if need be.
This never feels comfortable so I hope that it won't happen again. If it does, I wish you luck in confronting this guy about his inappropriate behavior.
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