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please help :(
Ive been going with this guy. Its been on and off every week or so. And a little later we always go out again. I always end up crying. Hes so overprotected i hate it. He controls me. But hes so sweet. I love him so much. We recently had an arguement about 'flirting'. We broke up. I ended up crying again. If i were giving myself advice i would say get over him, i admit it. But i cant. I try, but everytime he asks for a second chance i say yes. I cant get enough of him. Love is hell. I dont know what to do anymore. What do i do?? Im crying and miserable. I would kill myself right now =( please dont be mean or tell me to get over him because i just cant =( i wish i could but no matter what i always end up getting back together with him. If you tell me to forget about him i wont rate you high Sorry but ive tried everyway to get over him. If you say it tell me how :S Anything else would be great like what to say to him =( Im really sad right now What do i do? PLEASE HELP, Im desperate ='(
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I seriously know how you feel right now. When I was in grade 8, me and this guy were going out, on and off again until the end of grade 10. He sounds like your boyfriend that you have now. He was controling, but then he'd be so sweet to me and I'd forget about everything he did to me. He must have cheated on me 100 times, but that didn't matter. Everytime he asked me back out, I had to say yes. It's like he pulled me in and I just kept getting hurt over and over. The sad thing about that was, I was doing it to myself. It wasn't him hurting me anymore, it was me hurting myself because I kept taking him back. That's what you're doing right now, hurting yourself.
I know you didn't want me to tell you this, but you have to get over this boy. You're just hurting yourself and if you stay with him, you're just going to be heart broken. I know it's hard to get over a guy, especially when you love him. But just think of all the shit he put you through and all the bullshit you put up with because of him. I suggest making a pros (all the good things about him) and cons (all the bad things about him). This might help you out a bit. I can see just by how you talk about him, you're going to have more things that are bad about him, then the ones that are good. This might change your mind on things and it'll probably help out with your anger a bit.
It's going to be awhile before you actually get over him. But I know if you set your mind to it and you give it some time, you'll forget about him. Just think about it this way, there's guys out there who would love to treat you like the amazing person you are. This guy doesn't know what he has, so he has no right to treat you like shit. Find a guy that respects you and loves you for who you are. You should never let a guy walk over you like this, ever. You gotta go through some wrong ones, before you find the right one. ♥
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Well, atleast your honest about the fact that you cannot get over him. Anyway though...I guess love is painful sometimes and we have to take risks and sacrifices. Tell him you still have feelings and that even all the miserable OFF times don't take away from the wonderful feelings of when you guys are ON. Just tell him your gut feelings and how you need to be with him. Tell him you want to have one more shot with him. Even if you feel in your heart if you guys broke up you'd still say yes the next time, don't let him know that. Let him think this next time is precious as gold and that if he messes up once it's "over". It'll make him more cautious and stuff. I think that would be your best bet.
If I were you, I would try to get over it, and you have. You've done what you could do. Now all I wish I could do was help you be happier because I know love can be TORTURE. But for every bad season there's another good one on it's way. Hang tight and things are bound to get better whether it's gonna be tomorrow, a week, or 6 monthes. Good Luck!!
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talk to him about it. if he really does like you, and is protective, he wouldnt want to end up hurting you. or you could try talking to one of your girl friends. they could really help you work things out.
Alicia ♥
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did you try talking to him about it?? yes you need to get over him but there's other things you can do to try & fix it. talk to him about it. explain how you feel & you don't want to be hurt anymore & maybe he'll try to help. you guys shouldn't keep breaking up over stupid things such as arguments. a true serious relationship works through all of that & stick together. if he doesn't seem interested you can't do anything. really you can't. i think what you should do is take your mind off it. you shouldn't talk to him all the time if you guys aren't dating. yes you can be friends but go out with your friends. talk to new people. you have to try something. if you guys are meant for one another you'll date again.
-hope that helped!♥
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