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What do i do??
Hey was up my name is Lissa and i am 14 years old. And i need some help, well my parents are getting a divorce and ever sense they were going to get one i have been like the second mom and dad for my brotha and sista. I always have to babysitt and whenever i want to go out with my friends i have to make sure my brotha and sista have a place to go! I mean come on my parents arn't even thinking about me all they do is think about themselves. And when i do go out with my friends its like they don't trust me they always call me and it's like i babysitt all the time and you trust me 4 that but you can't trust me with my friends!!! Im so tired of this what do i do to help this situation get any better??
Love Lissa Honey
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Well, I'm sorry your parents are getting a divorce. And about the babysitting thing, maybe you should talk to both your mom and dad about it, try to make the situation a little less complicated. it happened to me, and i know how it feels, and i wasn't even babysitting my brother or sister cause i don't have one, i was baby sitting my cousins, cause they lived with me at the moment, maybe you should just take a break and tell your friends you have to be there and take care of everything, and when it's situated, you'll be free.
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Dear Lissa Honey,
First of all, being the eldest, kind of puts you in the place of hleping your parents out by taking care of your younger siblings. It sucks but that is how it goes. As for them not trusting you when you go out with friends, that I can't be certain as to why they are doing that (as in calling you while out all the time) but you do need to make them aware that you need some time away as well. What kind of ground rules are in place for you when you go out? Maybe if none, it'd be a good idea to work some kind of ground rules with them so they can let go a bit without having to worry unless you don't stick with the rules.
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Talk to them about this whole situation. Yeah, maybe they are getting a divorce, but that's no excuse to make you the parent. You shouldn't be babysitting ALL the time. Tell them that they need to let you go out and do stuff. You deserve it. Remind how you are the one to always babysit for THEM. They should understand.
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