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14 year old male
There are a lot of "How do I get this guy/girl to like me" questions on this site, and mine is the exact opposite.
I'm pretty positive that a girl that I have PE with has a crush on me, and my friend agrees with me. The thing is, I'm not attracted to her in any way what-so-ever, not even as a friend. I don't like her because she over analyzes things and is an immature person that thinks she is mature.
Is there some sort of way I can make her not have a crush on me? I don't want to make a total jerk out of myself, because that's not that type of person that I am, and I also deffinetly do not want to hurt her. Any thoughts?
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Well as a girl I would say don’t do anything just ignore her. Yeah shell think you’re a jerk but it would hurt her feelings and probably embarrass her if you said anything. So my advice is just don’t do anything that way she will eventually give up.
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My Ex had this problem after he broke up with me. I still liked him for a really long time and it started to make things really akward. So what he did was somewhat harsh, but it worked. He basiclly ignored me for months. We wanted to stay friends and since you don't like her it wont really matter, but like you said you don't want to be rude. If she asks you questions, do a brief one word answer thing. "I dunno" "Yes" "No" is pretty much all you need to say to her, followed by walking away like you're distracted. She should eventually get the hint and back off. Good luck!
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It's an akward situation. On the one hand, you don't want her to think she has a chance with you when she doesn't, as that doesn't do her any good, but on the other hand, you don't want to embarass her by saying that you suspect she has feelings for you but you don't reciprocate them or make her feel bad by being cold towards her.
You haven't said why you think this girl likes you, but as long as her behaviour isn't really overt flirting then I think it's best that you just ignore it as best you can and let her crush run its course. The chances are it's just a crush and not something she intends to act on, which would mean any action on your part would just embarass her. If however it seems that she's going to act on her feelings, then it would be kinder to make it clear you aren't interested before she does anything. I agree with you, this is difficult to do without being unpleasant. Nobody wants to hear that their feelings aren't reciprocated, so it's never going to be a pleasant experience. You could try and do it subtly, such as by talking about a girl you like or are seeing (this is a white lie, in this circumstances) when you think she can hear you, but there is the risk that she'll realise what you are doing and be even more hurt.
I think you have to play it as it comes. I wouldn't do anything unless she starts to become more obvious about her feelings, in which case I'd try to find a quiet moment alone with her and very gently say that you might be wrong, but you suspected she has some feelings for you (this gives her the oppertunity to just deny it if she would find that less embarassing) and that you're sorry but you just don't feel that way about her. All you can do is keep it short, be as gentle as you can and avoid suggesting that she's been in any way obvious. All the best.
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You can either play off that you're gay, or casually talk about other girls as if you weren't aware she wanted you. Any further than that and you do indeed risk jerkness.
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Show absolutely no interest. Don't be rude but don't talk to her often or flirt often. Eventually she might just give up. But that's the only real nice way of doing it.
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