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Does He Like Me?
Ok i am a little upset right now, this is regards to my question before. The guy i like who i work with. well we spoke and laughed and i thought things were going reat. then we had a christmas party and i heard he was going so i went, but when i got there he glanced at me slightly and never spoke to me the whole night (mind you i never did either)I could feel him look at me sometimes when i danced but thats bout it, (hes such a proud guy never looks at when he passes by) then when we were dancing to a a rap song he came up and started grinding with a (ugly) girl near me, i am upset, are things getting worse between us, and what should i do?
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I will say things are not getting worse between you guys. Lots of boys are proud and expect you to go to talk to them instead of them coming to you. If he keep glancing at you then it probably meant he wanted you to come to him but he might of been shy to come talk to you. The grinding... that was probably to get you to notice him since you were dancing with some other boy. The fact he was dancing with an ugly girl might also be a spark for attention for you to get your eyes in him. Next time just go up to him and say something then get a conversation started and whatever goes in from there. Trust me the same thing happened to me and the boy Josh(fake name) was my boyfriend and we were at a party and didn't say one word but now were okay and even buying each other christmas gifts. well hoped I helped GOOD LUCK *KookieMonster96*
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OK, it sounds as though you and this co-worker have a good relationship at work. That's great and it could be the start of something, but it may not be. I'd be careful anyway about starting a romantic relationship with a co-worker. If it doesn't work out, it is SO hard to then work beside this person at work each and every day. Very uncomfortable. Can affect your work. Not good!
You say this guy is "such a proud guy" that he never looks at you when he passes by. Does that happen at work, or were you just referring to how he acted at the Christmas party? Nevertheless, do you mean by "proud" that he acts arrogant and aloof? Or, do you think this guy could possibly be shy? How do/did you act and what do/did you say when he passes/passed you by? Do/did YOU play aloof by not saying anything to him? I suspect you might do this since you said that you never spoke to him at the party [since he never spoke to you]. I'd call that playing games, and I think playing games is very unhealthy and totally a waste of time and energy; it even smacks of a complete loss of intelligence and is ridiculously immature (even when older people do it!).
Who knows why he glanced at you from time to time while you were dancing? Maybe he IS interested and was sort of keeping track of you and what you were doing. Maybe he simply liked your dancing. Or, I hate to say it, but you could have been seeing/feeling what you wanted to see/feel.
I'm a little disturbed that you called his dance partner "ugly." That's just not kind or fair. I know we all tend to do that when we're hurt and confused, but we need to try to stay away from criticizing other people in general, but in this case, especially since you seem to be taking something out on HER instead of on HIM.
The fact that he danced right next to you may have been a sign that he wanted to be near you and didn't really know how to ask you to dance with him. That may sound stupid since he was dancing with another girl. However, I've learned through the years that, for whatever reason (usually incomprehensible), sometimes people think that someone of the opposite sex is emotionally unavailable, unavailable as far as having a partner already (meaning they ASSUME that the other person must have a partner), or that the person is just "too good," or "too good looking," etc. to want to be with him or her. For an example, there were some very cute and popular guys in my high school to whom I was secretly attracted and always thought that I was "out of their league." (I was a bit insecure, ok.) Anyhow, it wasn't until I attended my first high school reunion that several of these guys told ME that they never figured I'd go out with THEM because of...well, whatever. We had to laugh about it, but it was sad as well. Do you understand what I'm saying?
I wouldn't jump the gun and wonder if "things are getting worse between" you two. What exactly is the nature of your relationship now? How has he acted towards you in the office after this party? And, how have YOU acted towards him after this party?
At this point, I'd just play things by ear and let the office relationship evolve and see where it leads you. Don't rush things. Don't assume things - and that includes not assuming that you guys are developing a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. That will only cause you disappointment if this friendship does not develop into anything more. You could always ask this guy to join you for lunch and see how that goes. You may be able to discover how you guys are when you're alone. But try not to have high expectations for something more than a friendship. On that note, how about trying to be satisfied with a good friendship right now? OK, that may not be what you want, but you have to understand that it may be what will come of you two. Be happy for that. Appreciate the friendship and if you don't Push, Expect, or Assume (there's that word again), then your expectations can't be dashed. And, repeating myself, I warn you of the perils of an office romance! Be careful. But also, if this is meant to happen - a romance that is - then I wish you luck and hope you two can actually get around to being honest with each other and try ever so hard to NOT find yourselves playing games! That's a lose-lose situation no matter how you look at it.
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toughen your self up woman! give him a taste of his own medicine!!when you feel that hes staring at you go flirt with a guy or something.hes probably doin this either to see if you like him and if youd get jelous (dont let him suceed in gettin u mad) or because you made it too obvious that you like him when he only took you as a friend
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Let's breakdown the situation here for a better understanding. You like your co-worker and you went to the Xmas party only because you heard he was going. When you got there, you see him kind of evasive but he glanced at you a few times. Additionally he never spoke to you all night. Sweetie, YOU like your co-worker, but he is just nice with you at work because he is a nice co-worker. That is the ONLY relationship that he has with you, CO-WORKER. If he was into you, or if he likes you the same way you like him, don't you think that he would've asked you out to be his date for the Xmas party?? But what happened, he didn't asked you and you showed up only and solely because you knew he was going. I bet that the reason he glanced at you a few times is to prevent that you don't see him with his date. Then you see him dancing with this ugly girl. Things are not getting worse between the two of you and you know why? Because there is NOTHING going on between the two of you but a co-worker relationship. That is all mamma, that is all. Now, why are you upset? If someone should be upset is him because he had such an UGLY date for the party, and I bet she was a bad dancer, lol.
Hope to hear back from you!
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