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divorce..
i am 13/f and my parents have been divorced since i was 2...i live with my mom on weekdays and every other weekend i go to my dads house and spend the night...my mom is remarried and my dad has i g/f that i really like...well last friday was my party so i didnt go to my dads on his weekend. on saturday morning i called my dad and he didnt want to come pick me up..when i got there (from my mom) his g/f was over and they had slept together...my dad asked me if i thought he was a bad person... so i have 2 questions-
1. should i tell my mom about her sleeping over there...becasue i dont really want to go to my dads and if my mom hears i wont have to spend the night at my dads.
2. is it mean for me to not want to go to my dads house...the age is 13 when you get to choose if you go or not but i dont know if i should go.
Sorry it was so long..i will rate high!
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why shud you tell ur mom?no way!dont do that . . . your dad isnt a bad person at all...hes even kind for asking such a thing! every1 wants to have some fun right?even you dont be upset bout that!
good luck
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well think of the positive and negative points of it....if you tell your mom you wont go to your dads anymore like you wanted its your decision wether you can go over your dads or not nobody can make you go.im not saying you should cutt off the connection between you guys and its not mean to not wanna go over your dads i mean my parents got divorced when i was 10 and he asked me who i wanted to stay with and i said my mom.its not mean,its honest.
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1. its ok if you want to talk to your mom about it, but it would be best if you also talked to your dad. its always good to be able to talk to your mom about things like this, but this kind of situation is between you and your father. its sounds like he would understand if you told him you were not ready to be staying over if she was there too, no matter how much you like her. anyways the point is i think it would be good to tell your mom, its always good to keep her involved, but it would be better if you were the onhe to talk to your dad about it, not her.
2. no it is not mean for you not to want to go to your dads house. trust me i feel the same way. as long as your happy, besides mabye its just a brake you need, and youll want to see him later on.
i hope everything goes ok for you!
..:jenny
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just think about whether you like being at your dad's or not. also, think how it'll make him feel if you say you don't want to visit him anymore. does he like having you at his house? the incident you descrbed seems quite unpleasant for you, but people make mistakes. he may have preferred to be with his gf rather than pick you up once, but it doesn't mean he doesn't want to have you over. talk to him about how it made you feel before telling your mom about it. it's not mean to be upset about this, but it would be wise to take into consideration your dad's feelings.
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this is a tough decision that you have to make. go with your gut feeling. if you don't want to go tell your mom. but only if she's strong enough to handle it. she's married, right? so she probably doesn't care about what he does.
its not mean of you to not want to go to your dad's house. that's your choice. maybe you would feel ocward. just because you dont want to live with him for the weekend doesnt mean that you cant see him at all. you know? you could still go out for lunch or something every now and then.
hope i helped, hun!
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