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they cal me ms. innocent
So, I'm 14 (female) and I've never had even the slightest crush on anyone. I've never done anything with a guy (not even a hug) before either (hense the "ms.innocent" part). Is there something wrong with me? I think I might like someone now, but I'm not sure. You see, I'm extremely shy around people so those butterflies could just be anxiety for me. I was also wondering if there's a way that I could tell if i truely like someone???
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every one gets shy there is nothing wrong with it. some people just show it more then others. and some are just lucky enough to suck it in and take trow away being shy. and step into what they fear
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If you'll know if you like him, under all the doubt and anxiety, the answer is there. And there is nothing wrong with not having done anything or liked anyone in that special way. If you aren't comfortable, you aren't comftorable. There's no right or wrong time for those things that apply to all people. Do what's right for YOU. :)
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Oh, sweetie! You're totally normal! Some girls won't feel the "tug at their hearts" that shows that they like someone until they're in their later teen years. Frankly, those girls may be better off. I have friends who are so obsessed with boys that you can hardly talk to them because .. ugh, they're so obsessed! [Funniest thing, the boy-craziest girls aren't friends.. they can't stand each other!]
It's okay that you're still innocent. That's fine. You know, it's good. I've never done anything with my boyfriend of eight months past a hug and holdin' hands. And holding hands is rare. Very, very, very rare. I think that's a ... two time only rare thing.
Being innocent is nothing to be ashamed of, though the world will try and tell you otherwise. Everywhere you look, you see beautiful people, all sleeping around, doing drugs, drinking, smoking, making out etc. But really, do you think those people are happy? Hmm.. I don't know. I wouldn't think so. If you have to continually rely on sex and drugs to make you happy... no, that's not genuine happiness. I know this from .. well, almost experience. I'm a virgin, never done drugs, drank or smoked. But my cousins are not so innocent. My sixteen-year-old cousin gave her virginity away at fourteen [:O] and is uber popular. She's pretty and thin, has had her share of drugs and booze.. but she's not happy. She could have her choice of guys, but the one she wants won't have her because of the things she's done. She messed herself up. She will, hopefully, be able to find happiness someday within herself - not having to rely on others.
There's nothing wrong with being shy either. I know I am! I was SO shy before I started going out with my boyfriend. It was almost funny how shy I was. I didn't talk to anyone face-to-face. I was like "you wanna talk to me, IM me. Here's my SN." I couldn't talk to people face-to-face because there's so much you can see by reading people's eyes. Facial expressions are dead giveaways. My eyes... My eyes are the window to my soul. I know that if someone can see my eyes, they will (unless they're just stupid) know what I'm truly thinking. That's why I often look at the ground. ;) When I started going out with my boyfriend, it was so amazing at how much I came out of my shell. It was like... utter acceptance. [That's something BIG for me.]
Hmm... do you ever find yourself thinking about this person? Dreaming about him? Daydreaming about him? Worrying about him? That's something I did.. when I liked a guy (I've only liked two, so yeah, I'm not really experienced either) I'd always worry about his safety. His wellbeing. Is he okay? Is he sick? Etc. Do you ever think about what it would be like to hug this boy? Or kiss him? Or maybe more than that? Marry him? Go for a long walk with him? In a beautiful meadow or perhaps on the beach? Holding hands? Etc. Those are signs of liking someone.
Only you can guide yourself into knowing if you truly like someone or not.
Though your heart is on the left, it is always right. :)
Trust yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Trust your friends.
Believe in your friends.
Rely on your friends.
Depend on your friends, family, and yourself.
Seek spiritual guidence. That's sometimes what you'll need to come out of your shell.
You'll know when it's the right time. There is a time for everything.
-FunnyCide
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Well, when you like someone, you think about that person more than you would "just a friend". Sometimes you get butterflies if you REALLY like them. :-D You might catch yourself wondering what it would be like to date them, or looking at them. (you may even do it w/ out realizing that you keep looking lol) They make you smile a lot. I hope this gives you more of an idea of what feels like to REALLY like someone. Good luck and I hope it helped!
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