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Trust
Two of my best friends has really done something horrible to me behind my back & I heard of it later, and they apologized about it all and everything, but I still can't seem to trust them much and I still can't forgive them much for it. What should I do? I am 14 and female.
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Talk to them about it and tell them how you felt when they did that. At first it will look like there not paying attention but they are actually just trying to deny that fact that they really are listening. Ask them why they did that to you.
And just communicate. Thats the best thing you can do. And in the end, if it still feels like you can't trust them, still be friends with them, jsut dont tell them valuble secrets.
Much love
♥
Ava
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well, if they did something that horrible to you, then they wouldn't really be BEST friends now would they?? but anyways, you don't have to trust them much or forgive them quite yet. talk to them, but still keep your barriers up and don't tell them wayy important stuff. tell them that they'll have to earn your trust back and prove that they are really sorry for you to forgive them. hope i helped
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You need to decide if you want to keep the friendship you have or forget about it. I would say that if this is the only time these friends have done something like this or if they are truely sorry, that you should just forgive and forget. It might be hard at first because you are still angry or hurt over what they did, but you will be able to build up trust between the three of you again. But if this kind of thing happens frequently it may be time to rethink the friendship.
Love,
Kate
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they apologized and you need to remember that everyone is not perfect...were human and we make mistakes tell them you still want to be friends but if they screw up again its over
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You call them your BEST FRIENDS?!?!?
After they did something really horrible to you?!?!?! It doesn't matter if they apologised or not, if you can't trust them or forgive them then, the damage is already done. You need to confront them to give you some satification. (sp) Me, I wouldn't be friends with them anymore. You are a very loyal friend and they took you for granted. If they were your REAL friends, they wouldn't have done anything to violate your trust and make you feel bad. Whatever they didm must've been terrible.
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