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hi. I'm 12 and a half years old and in 7th grade. It may seem young but it feels like im a lot older and people tell me i look 15. but anyways, a coupld of weeks ago i had my first kiss...w. tongue! but i feel like i did it for all the wrong reasons. I was at this boys house with two other girls and another boy so it was 2 boys and 3 girls including me. the night before one of the girls that was there slept at my house. the 2 boys kept calling her and asking if she would make out with them the next day. neither of us had boyfriends at the time (and i still dont) but she decided she wanted to with one of them but not the other. the other one didnt want to make out with me so he said he wanted my other friend to come also so he could kiss someone too. thats how we got 3 girls. (sorry this is so long but your amazing at giving advice) that night me and my friend were practicing kissing on our hands all night long, trying to perfect it. when we got to his house the next day neither of my friends wanted to go first. so i kept saying "guys just go! if it were me i would want to go first" then my friend was about to do it and said..."this isnt fair were all about to hook up and mel is just sitting there" i was thinking thank g-d she said that! then she says i will only do it if one of you kisses her on the lips no tongue, so i did with one of them...that was my first kiss w. no tongue. then she said she still felt bad and said she would only do it if i hooked up with the other one. and he really did not want to. the other guy wanted to do it so bad with my other friend so he said he would pay the guy 25 dollars to hook up with me for like 5 seconds or however long it was. so he did. and now i feel like such a slut and i didnt want my first kiss to be like that. i dont know why i did it but it was right in front of me and i have always wanted to kiss someone with tongue.i wanted my first to be romantic...but it wasnt and now i feel so stupid and like such a slut. what is your input on this? am i slut? should i not have done it? idk what to do! please help!!
-melissa
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Aww sweetheart, you are totally NOT a slut. A slut, by definition, is someone who sleeps around. Kissing does not equal sleeping around, m'dear.
I can understand you feeling bad for having your first kiss with/without tongue in a situation like that.
There isn't a whole lot to do about this situation, as long as people don't get the idea that you ARE a slut simply from doing that.
I would ask all parties involved to keep quiet about that night if it bothers you.
You're not stupid. You got caught up in a situation. I've had that happen. I just made it clear that it was not about to happen again, and in your situation I would do that.
I'm sorry to tell you there's nothing to be done about the fact that your first kiss wasn't what you wanted, but if it makes you feel any better, I haven't heard a single good "first kiss" story. Even mine sucked, lol.
I would just make it clear that that was a one-time thing and it will not happen again. Next time, pay more attention to the situation and try not to let it happen again.
Guys are stupid and manipulative. You've gotta be careful of that.
No matter what, just remember that what happened does NOT make you a slut by any means.
I hope I helped a bit!
-Siren =)
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