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Trusting guys~~~please help : (
Im 13/f and my friend realized that she has a trust problem with guys. She wants to improve herself by trusting more guys more and she wants to have some guy friends but she has no idea how to trust them more. What can she do or what can I do to help? Thanks!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
first step: find some guys worthy of her trust. This is much much harder than you'd think, particularly 13 years olds (with people in general actually, not just guys) so that's your main task.
After that it's a question of gradually trusting them with more and bigger things until she realises they haven't betrayed her about X so why would they betray her about Y? etcetc
If you don't find any trustworthy guys until you're about 16 I'd say that's pretty average :)
Good Luck
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it's hard to trust guys cause the're all so unpredictiable so all you got to do is give them a chance and if they blow it I wouldn't blame you for not trusting them
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It's not always wrong to feel an amount of distrust when meeting or dateing a new person, but that should fade the longer you know the person. Tell her not to just dismiss guys the first time she meets or goes out with them because time and experience will show if they can be trusted or not.
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she can only trust by expierence. you know, going out & trying to trust different guys, getting to know them, being open, etc. you can't juss want to trust anyone, because all guys are different. i guess you can't really help her with it, but juss be there for her when she needs it because sometimes guys can be mean er juss not understand it. she shouldn't get stuck on trust issues, because she doesn't want to miss out on a great guy because she thinks she cant trust him, when she might've been able to.
good luck!♥
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