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ok.. heres the thing.. about a year ago.. i met this guy.. and we liked each other so we went out a couple of months but we didnt get to be "boyfriend&girlfriend" by the third month things didnt work out.. so we stopped dating.. and i felt hurt because he just stop calling.. so i didnt want to talk to him again.. so i moved on.. after that.. my best friend that during that year was in another country in her exchange student year.. she knew everything.. i mean i told her, by mail, or by phone (because of the fact that she was too many miles away), soooo.. she wasnt here.. but she knew anyway because I told her.. after that.. in august she came back and they met and they got along very well.. so now they are dating.. but like boyfriend and girlfriend!!!.. i just couldnt believe it.. i got so mad.. i dont talk to her anymore.. because i felt very betrayed.. its like.. according to me.. that;s like a "friends rule" it doesnt matter if u didnt get to be his girlfriend, right? but i dunno what to do.. because like she is my best friend in the whole world.. we've known each other for a long long time.. we've been together through very hard times.. and i really dont want to lose her.. but it really hurt what she didnt.. i think that she didnt care about our friendship enough to stop dating himm.. i dont know what to dooo! please heeeeelp.. should i forgive her? or what should i do??
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Well, think about it from her point of view. She probably met him and they really liked each other, but she didn't want to hurt you, but she really wanted to be w/ a guy she liked. You shouldn't get too worked up about it, b/c if you didn't really get too far w/ this guy and she did, she is obviously the right person for him. I got a question about someone liking their BFF's bf, and he liked her back, and they really wanted to go out, but they both didn't want to hurt the BFF. I think that your situation is kind of like hers, and your BFF and guy friend really do care about you, but it's just a weird situation for them to face b/c you don't like it.
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Well, see, here's the thing. If she has been your friend for a long while, you can't give her up now. Sure there's hurt...but you need to tell her that! Not ignore her or isolate yourself. She might've figured that you were over him. Maybe it would've been more appropriate for her to ask you how you felt, but who knows. Not everybody is the same on that rule. It's not like she stole him from you. You and that guy weren't/aren't together. She might think your way done with him. The best thing to do would invite her over or call her up and tell her the truth about how you feel...explain it calmly so you guys don't have to fight. Make sure it's clear to her that you don't want to lose her friendship. Good Luck!
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ok i understand what your saying but listen to your words"i moved on" and "it didnt work out between us" yes it is pretty rotten of her to go with him after she knew your story--but eventually she may realize he isnt what she wants--and she will still have you and vise versa--tell her how you feel but then say i wish you the best of luck--im not saying you and her and him should hang out as friends-i would back away if you cant handle it--seeing them together--but let her know your hurt but your still her friend--its hard and it is also your decision based on you moved on and you dont have feelings for this guy--dont stoop to her level of betrayal your better than that and she will see that in you and he may too and he will realize what he doesnt have! good luck hope i could help
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